18 Year Old wants to go on Holiday with 32 year old

[Panto66]

My 18 year old DS wants to go on holiday with a 32 year old male colleague. I'm concerned about his motivation. He's 18 and an adult so I can't stop him but feel very uncomfortable about it. Do you think I'm right to be concerned?

Due to his age its none of your business but I would be concerned too

Is your son gay? Could they be dating?

I think asking him the questions such as asking about the guy, asking if he thinks its off that he wants to go on holiday with him

Just the two of them? It's a bit odd, if I went on holiday with an 18 year old I'd feel like their parent but I guess if all the colleagues friends are married off and/or don't want to go and he and your friend have shared interests there's no reason not to.

I wouldnt be paying for it though and I'd make it clear I was available if they needed me and it all turned sour.

Depends what it is. If it’s a group tour to do something niche that they both happen to have an interest in e.g. Trek the Great Wall of China with 8 other people all of varying ages then fine. Just the 2 of them to say a resort in Spain though, that is weird and I get your concerns because of the age gap.

I would be concerned OP. Do you know the 32 year old? How did they become friends and what is their relationship like?

You say it's a colleague but what kind of work - e.g. is it working at a nightclub/ bar or something more professional? It could be someone dangerous either way, but the former is more likely to be.

I think you need to do a bit of digging and find out what the dynamic is here.

I also disagree with the poster above saying that it's none of your business due to his age.

18 is just barely an adult, and 18 year olds can still be at a very vulnerable stage, some are quite immature.

Try to find out a bit more, OP.

depends the work environment too! if they are builders for example I wouldn't bat an eyelid, as they'd probably have an even responsibility somewhat at work, and quite often tradesmen are just up for a laugh.
if he's the trainee in a more office like environment or hospitality id be concerned.

Thanks for your replies. It is just the two of them and it would just be to Spain or similar not a shared interest. I am very worried as he is immature and I'm not sure he realises that as you say, it's a bit odd.

I would share your concern.

I'd never want to go on holiday with any work colleague, however well I got on with them.

Agree that it's not quite right...