Year 13 - Prom /end of year assembly and lunch

[BeeBB]

DD’s school have organised the above two events. The latter is next week the former is sometime in June (but we have to pay a deposit for this shortly).

I made the mistake of getting invested in similar shenanigans in year 10. Friends kids were splashing out on nice dresses, shoes, hair etc DD had a melt down and went in jeans and docs.

DD doesn’t follow the crowd, she is also possibly Neuro Diverse or definitely has some traits and possibly confused about her gender or sexuality. She doesn’t talk to us so I don’t know. If she did go to either event I imagine it would be non traditional (imagine a suit, mens clothes or jeans old trainers and a very oversized mens hoodie that she usually wears) and last minute but as she is tall and an awkward shape she/we would definitely struggle to source anything locally.

Any ideas of places to look if she does spring something on us last minute?

Asked three times now if she is intending going to either, if she wants to go shopping either with me or with her friend or wants to look online and had snappy responses about her not knowing and having not decided yet.

I think there has to be a deadline, if no response by then the answer is no. A worthwhile lesson for life to be honest.

is it worth considering her having a ‘nice’ outfit suitable for any other occasions/days out that might occur over the next few months.
so perhaps rephrasing this for her - and if this did work and you treated her to a new outfit it takes the pressure off a bit for this event. Perhaps for example she’d like smarter trainers/boots, a good quality t-shirt or hoody in a different colour to what she might usually choose. Maybe a jacket to go over a new t-shirt to wear with new trousers or new dark jeans? If those are the sort of clothes she feels more comfortable in, you’d just be treating her to new ones that wouldn’t go to waste regardless of whether she went to these events.

would she respond to going out for a coffee or lunch with you, take your iPad or laptop and do some online browsing? Or if shopping is more her thing find a place with several suitable shops?

Thanks all these are both good replies. She is in the midst of A levels and school haven’t even finished all of the content yet in her three A levels so I don’t think she has any head space.

Well she has ignored all my offers to consider what she has in her wardrobe and what she might want to wear to the assembly and looking at ordering something online. We did go shopping locally on Saturday but everything I suggested was dismissed and she had no ideas. So the assembly is tomorrow and looks she will be wearing her old usual jeans or old combats with a thick warm oversize hoody or sweatshirt teamed with her old worn out trainers.

Dreading her mood in the morning.

Oh dear…
perhaps if she feels awkward or unhappy tomorrow, it might make her more focussed in choosing something for the next event. Perhaps she felt pressured or overwhelmed to choose something (not pressured by you, but by having a deadline/specific event)

do you know her taste well enough to order a couple of options online then she can try at home and reject or accept as she wishes? And you just return if she doesn’t confirm by x date that she wants to keep any of the items.

We looked through the photos of DD's school's 2022 Prom to get an idea of what to wear. There were a couple of females with baggy colourful suits.

Would you ever get her in a halter neck or sleeveless blouse? Hopefully there is something cheaper on eBay, but maybe something like this?
https://www.johnlewis.com/ro-zo-satin-halter-top/white/p110000126?size=18&s_ppc=2dx92700071605015103_mixed_fashion_BAU&tmad=c&tmcampid=2&gclid=CjwKCAjwjMiiBhA4EiwAZe6jQ06DqT2oJStQrwTlYHVRbvrabu7ZuXlFic28g2Sg8lNwro9Sgh3QzBoCqr4QAvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds

J Lewis have partnered it with a black suit so you'll get the idea.

That’s lovely @Madcats
if the op’s dd prefers something plainer a little t/shirt might also look good but obviously not so ‘dressy’

Thanks all she favours plain, very conservative, traditional dresser and much prefers casual, comfortable clothing.

I bought her cheap black blazer tonight and she is going to wear this with some black trousers we got for her work experience. She is still undecided re the prom. I love that mad cats but I love green and bright colours. DD much prefers black and white or muted colours.

@BeeBB

Sounds like the blazer/trousers are a step
in the right direction and better than the very casual hoody etc she may have ended up wearing tomorrow.

if she does decide to attend prom then it’s perhaps a case of a similar outfit, maybe a different colour, maybe not. Perhaps she would agree to a more ‘special’ top
Hope she enjoys tomorrow.

Op...I nearly posted this link (whilst now noting that Shein have some synthetic/nylony ones for under a tenner):