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Why are teenagers so infuriating?!!

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sherbert82 · 21/04/2023 23:43

Just here to vent as my teenage daughters have thoroughly pissed me off!!! I do bloody everything i can for them and ask for nothing in return apart from some bastard peace and quiet at the end of a VERY long and draining week (I have 2 teen girls a pre teen son who LOVES to wind up my 8 year old daughter who won’t sleep in her own bed and a 4 year old who refuses to potty train and a husband who works away all week so I’m REALLY trying to keep my shit together 24/7) and heaven forbid I’m EVER grumpy and I get called out for it and my eldest “hates living in a house where everyone is shouting”

Well I’m SORRY but the only person I could hear shouting when I was trying to get my 4 year old to bed was her oh but now I’m an asshole “this is why I don’t say anything to you because you overreact and throw it in my face” ok I forgot your life is so bad. Wasn’t so awful a couple of hours ago when I brought you tickets to the theatre though was it?

then my other teen emerges from her room and they’re whispering about me in the kitchen like I don’t know they’re doing it. Then they go off to their rooms at 11pm with their mardy attitudes leaving me reeling

AAAAAAAARGH

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carriedout · 21/04/2023 23:50

Teenagers are programmed tobe selfish and annoying, they have not yet learnt to think of others.

You have a huge amount to do by the sound of it, you need a Brew

However I was not sure this was the right approach: I do bloody everything i can for them and ask for nothing in return - they are old enough to help with the basics like cooking, washing up and doing the laundry.

workworkworkugh · 22/04/2023 00:39

I hear you, bloody frustrating aren't they!

When we've tried to bring up certain things with my 18 yo DS, he just walks off as he 'doesn't like us being negative' aka he doesn't like hearing that he might need to take some accountability

Toiletfriend · 22/04/2023 15:52

Why do you have so many children if they're such hard work?

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sherbert82 · 26/04/2023 10:51

I’m not complaining about having a lot of children - just needed to vent.

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sherbert82 · 26/04/2023 10:53

You have a good point there and actually I did have a chat with them about taking on more responsibility and so far so good! They’re not all bad 😄

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Skybluepinky · 26/04/2023 11:53

Sounds like u need to contact yr HV for help.

Whatthefnow · 30/04/2023 00:30

I hear you op!!

I have four it the little darlings and honestly I'm finding them infuriating also

My eldes, almost 18 was just telling me that his friendship group has stopped talking to him as he forgot someone's birthday.

Anyway, conversation went on to him telling me about another friend that threw a bottle of coke across a shopping centre and he filmed it

I explained to him that that was very serious and not funny at all as someone could have gotten hurt.

He flounced off.....these teenagers are going to kill me.

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sherbert82 · 30/04/2023 11:41

You sound exasperated also, I find that the more mums I talk to the more normal I feel!!

Honestly you just can’t say anything to them can you! Call them out on their inappropriate behaviour and you’re “in a mood” or my personal favourite response “really?” With some extra attitude thrown in. Oh and do you think DH says anything about the way they talk to their mum? NO! Grrr

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theblackradiator · 30/04/2023 20:40

can relate OP especially your last comment where you mention their dad not saying anything to them about the way they speak to their mum I have this too. My teen dds Dad is too scared to upset teen dd and can't possibly be seen to be the bad cop by disaplining her he's more of a mate than a parent to her and it drives me fkin crazy.
As for someone's awful comment asking why you had so many dc I can understand why you did have so many because they are lovely whilst they are little then these awful bloody teenagers appear and our lovely little ones totally change.
Teenagers are totally self absorbed and only happy when we're throwing money at them and providing them with stuff they want they don't give a shit about us any other time.
Hopefully things will get better in a few years when they become more adult. (or move out 🤣)

workworkworkugh · 30/04/2023 22:30

@theblackradiator I'm pretty sure they become so infuriating so that we're not so upset when they move out, it's almost welcomed 😂

theblackradiator · 30/04/2023 22:59

workworkworkugh · 30/04/2023 22:30

@theblackradiator I'm pretty sure they become so infuriating so that we're not so upset when they move out, it's almost welcomed 😂

yes apparently that's true. its all part of the separate process. The trouble is they still live at home longer than ever these days as its so bloody expensive for them and they cannot afford to move out. we may be in for the long haul 🫣. I do love my teen dd with all my heart but yes she definitely infuriates me a lot of the time.

workworkworkugh · 01/05/2023 00:00

Very true. I expect DS18 will be at home for quite a few years yet, and we're happy for him to be if it means he can get more of a head start than we had.

But sometimes i think we annoy each other so much either he will 'threaten' to move out or I'll tell him to but we both know (like an unspoken understanding) that it won't be happening haha

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