Is this normal for teenage siblings?

[MySweetBaboo]

I was an only child so feel like I have no reference for this behaviour as to how “normal” it is.

I have a 13, 14 and 15 year old.

I have noticed that my middle child can be quite manipulative with her siblings to get what she wants.

For example she doesn’t want to sit in the middle of the back seat on long car journeys. The others are willing to take turns but I’ve now found out my middle child will get some gossip on their sibling and use it to their advantage. So will say if you don’t sit in the middle I will tell mum you’ve done x y and z.

Or if you don’t buy me sweets, chocolate etc then I’ll tell mum about whatever.

I’m only aware of this because I was doing some random phone checks re their social media use which they know I do due to some problems in the past.

Should I intervene or just let them get on with it?

let them get on with it, i have 4 sisters we all used to do that when we were younger

As one of 3 you should absolutely pull her up on this. Blackmail is completely unacceptable behaviour.

I meant, I am one of 3 siblings.

Its a middle child thing. They have excellent negotiation skills.

she is completely out of order, and needs disciplining, don't let her carry on bullying her siblings! How awful to be treated like this in your own home, and even worse if you parent just turns a blind eye.

Thank you for your replies I really appreciate it.

I’ve had a chat tonight saying it’s not acceptable and spoke to her siblings. They seem to have almost this loyalty that makes them feel like it’s ok. Like, she’s our sister so we do it because we love her as well as trying to save their own necks lol. As an only child I find it difficult to get my head round as to whether that’s ok or not.

but thank you again