Anyone not even had a happy mother's day from their teen??

[Meltinthemiddle]

Feeling slightly annoyed that he has stayed at his girlfriend's house the last two nights and hasn't so much as text happy mother's day. I'm not sure if he has got me a card or anything as still not home but a text or call to acknowledge the day would be nice. He is 18 and has a job so no excuses really. We invited him out for the day, breakfast but he hasn't bothered. I actually thought we were past this selfish stage. I will be annoyed if hasn't made any effort now if and when he eventually does turn up.

Wow OP, I would be absolutely disgusted if my son did this! It takes two second to call or text! And also, why wasn't he with you today?! Completely out of order in his part

I text him a few hours to say it would have been nice to have seen or heard from him today. He text back a few hours later saying 'Yeah I know Happy mother's day. Hope you had a good day' feels a bit too late now though! I don't want to slate him in case he has got me something but I would have rather had a call, text or seen him today.

Me.....not a word has been uttered.

My dp offered to take the kids to buy me a gift and card. Neither could be bothered. I over heard and told him not to go out and buy stuff on their behalf because that made it all pretty pointless. They're 15 and 16 and I do a lot for them both. They expect lifts and money in order to socialise with friends. I've fought their corners getting them help through very broken systems for LD. I think I'm quite a nice mum but clearly I'm a joke to them.

My dd completely lied and said dp didn't ask her to go pick something then when I said it hurt my feelings, laughed and said she didn't really care about mothers day/my feelings.
Ds won't talk about it. I didn't want anything fancy. They could have written me a note on a scrap of paper or run me a bath but they'd rather stare at their phone screens.

Thankfully my dp has made a fuss of me today and done some really thoughtful things to make my day nice but it still hurts that the kids couldn't give a fuck!

I'm sorry pojji it does really suck especially when you don't expect alot, just some acknowledgement. I am just so disappointed and feel like saying fuck you do your own laundry, food and lifts from now on. I am done fighting his corner, sticking up for him and making excuses. I am glad DH has still made fuss Luckily mine did too and my youngest teen was around for the day.

@Meltinthemiddle Did his girlfriend not spend time with her Mum on Mother's Day either?

I agree, stop doing his laundry and giving him lifts. He has to understand that he has a relationship with you and if he treated a girlfriend poorly she would hopefully dump his sorry arse; you get to not put any effort in for him as he hasn't put in any effort for you.

I have teen sons, 20 and at uni but home for Easter and 17. Both bought me cards, spent a huge amount of the day with me, chatting, watching tv together which is how it should be. It is one freaking day of the year where you prioritise your Mum and be grateful for everything she has done for you.

I have to update. Obviously told him I was upset and disappointed and explained all I wanted was acknowledgement like a phone call or to see him that day. Anyway he eventually came home Monday from his gf and apologised he has since brought me chocolates, mug and a framed photo of us both. I obviously thanked him and hugged it out, he apologised again. I asked if he understood and he said he did now I explained it to him.

Good for you for discussing it with him instead of letting it go. Relationships improve with open and honest conversations. Hopefully he’ll have learnt how you expect to be treated on future special occasions, and that’ll filter through to how he treats others too.