Happy Mother's Day- not!!!

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My son has spoilt the day for me with his attitude
He didn't wish me a happy Mother's Day until I prompted him at 6pm today. He was then asked to wash up as everyone else had contributed stuff to dinner. He just storms off muttering and then proceeds to text me a barrage of abuse accusing me of not caring about him etc being a shit mum
His attitude at school stinks and his teachers don't like him. He was a delightful young lad when in first and middle school so affectionate and eager to make people happy. Now he's surly and downright lazy
I've no idea how to deal with him at this point

Hes a teenager. It is unpleasant but very normal... keep going, keep boundaries, pick your battles. Drink wine.

You're not alone

Blimey

What the hell?

@CrapBucket is very wise. He'll improve with age. Grit your teeth, remain calm, ignore the texts.

Try and remember that they often become 6ft toddlers for two or three years before eventually growing up.

Maybe your username is very apt

Just ignore it. They are everywhere this evening, trying to sabotage the site. Pathetic really.

I'd be wondering what's changed for him. You say his teachers dislike him. Does he know this? Is anyone saying to him that nobody likes him? If he feels like he's unliked then it'll be a self fulfilling prophecy.
Yes he's a teenager but generally they don't tend to get that nasty without some kind of cause. Sounds like he's hurting himself somehow.
Hope you and he are ok

PS happy Mother's Day to you OP XX

His teachers like me and his father try hard with him and are very patient and encouraging. However time after time they (and us) get attitude off him and laziness lack of effort and just a vile attitude

You were the one trying to spoil a nice thread about Mother’s Day with your attitude so……

Teenagers are such hard work op , try and keep calm . Can your dh have a word with him about how hurtful he has been ?

Happy Mothers Day to me! What a blooming day! Last week DH asked what I wanted to do for mothers day and I suggested a day at the seaside..anything to get my DS away from gaming and with us for a few hours. This morning..no happy mothers day and DS refused to go to the seaside saying he didn't feel well (have had this before every time he gets asked to do something!) so I went on my own with the 2 dogs! Came back still no happy mothers day. DS gave me my presents after DH told him to give them me. DS just basically threw them at me, no happy mothers day and just told me to open them. I decided not to. DH asked what I wanted for dinner and I said at that stage I wasn't sure so he did dinner for himself and DS. I later made some toast...and watched TV in the spare room now off to bed for a 5am start.
Am I being childish, not sure what I was expecting but a happy mothers day from either DH or DS and a bit of fuss having had a tough time recently wouldn't have gone amiss.

Apologies this was meant to be a new thread spurred on by your own. Will repost.

Look!! An escapee teenager!!!! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

OP, I have one of those also. My CF of a DS has been on his phone all day, all through our lunch out, despite our asking him over and over again to put the phone away. He's barely done his homework and decided it was his right to hog the TV for ps4 time. I've told him I'll not tolerate his bad attitude nor his want to guilt trip ME about HIS homework.

I get my boundaries in first and fast and tell him I'm always here for him ,but his crappy attitude won't be welcome.

Good luck. Teenagers can be hideous beasts.

@SolitudeNotLoneliness lol not even my surly child is that much of an absolute dick!

That doesn't even make sense.

You certainly appeared to have insulted the person who started the thread.

It will get better op. My dd17 has always been, well rude, unhelpful, hurtful etc, you get the picture.

in the last few months she has short periods of being normal and nice. Today she got me a card and wrote, happy Mother’s Day mother, sorry for being a cunt, love xxx.

that is her being overly nice. Hope it continues. Your son will mature and look back and feel awful! X

I hope so
I bloody love him to bits and tell him as much as he will allow

And a person trying to police a nice thread about Mother’s Day isn’t being a dick?

I don’t get what you’re saying? The OP started this thread, and you seem to be saying she spoilt her own thread…..

Hah that's the best thing I've heard - I'll remember that!