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Arguing about wearing earrings to school

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NewBalanceShoe · 13/03/2023 18:17

We bought dd 14yo some lovely earrings for Christmas. They were expensive and when we gave them to her we said that we didn’t want her to wear them to school. She was fine about it to begin with but now she’s started to wear them. We’ve explained why we don’t want her to wear them - the risk of getting damaged, lost or stolen but her argument is what is the point in having them if she can’t wear them out. She loves them and I think they have been much admired. School doesn’t have any rules just to add.

What would you do in these circumstances? We rarely have a different viewpoint to things so I’m struggling!

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Shinyandnew1 · 16/03/2023 16:57

My DD’s school only allows stud earrings-is yours the same? I am interested to see these £200 earrings-what are they like?!

PastMyBestBeforeDate · 16/03/2023 17:05

Let her wear them. You could be burgled and lose them. My DM didn't use to wear her engagement ring to work in a school and it was stolen when they were burgled while she was at work.

suzyscat · 16/03/2023 18:19

Talipesmum · 14/03/2023 22:59

I’ve only lost one earring in my life and I’ve worn them every day since I was about 15. How likely is it she’d lose them? Has she lost any before? It’s probably less likely she’d lose them at school than on a night out in a few years time. Are they ones that fall out easily - and if so can you get better backs for them?

She loves them and gets joy from wearing them. I’d say don’t make her save them for best. But she maybe shouldn’t wear them if it’s a day she has to take them out for sports etc.

My ears absolutely leak earrings. I've lost so many, I don't even know how.Blush

SnarkyBag · 16/03/2023 18:25

She could just as easily lose one at the weekend as she could in school. DH was like this about the kids taking their AirPods to school but I didn’t see the point in not letting them use and enjoy them all the time. They’ve not lost one yet well apart from at home when they don’t remember where they put them or the time ds left his in his jeans pocket and it went through the washing machine. They have to learn to look after nice things

WestOfWestminster · 16/03/2023 18:31

Could you buy a cheaper version of them that look the same, and swap them without her knowing? Then keep the nice ones u til she's a bit older?

Malariahilaria · 16/03/2023 18:46

I have lost so many earrings I'm convinced there's an earring fairy that steals them. I now limit the budget to a tenner. How are you lot not losing them weekly? Anyway I don't think she should wear them to school but life lesson, if she chooses to and loses one, then you don't replace them.

redskylight · 17/03/2023 09:48

Do you let her take a phone to school?
If you do, and she has something that's not a basic brick phone, then your viewpoint is inconsistent :)

maddy68 · 17/03/2023 10:09

I kind of agree. If you bought her earingings as gift. Os she only allowed to wear them with your permisy as that isn't really a gift

UNLESS they go against school uniform policy. Then that's a whole different ball game

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