I’m on my own with my children , including a 16 year old boy.
He has become withdrawn and sullen and stopped going to school despite the school’s support and my best efforts to get him to go. He moved school at his own request and has only attended for one term. His school have been very helpful.
He has developed OCD behaviours and is now verbally abusive to me, sometimes physically pushing me too. He yells and swears at me from one end of the house to the other. He is on the Autistic spectrum. He swears at his younger siblings.
He sleeps all day and is awake most of the night. He only eats at night and yells at me as he doesn’t think I make him enough food. He says he’s going to report me for neglect as I don’t feed him enough and he wants me to lose my job.
He takes long showers in the early hours, waking us all up and drains all my hot water. I often don’t have enough hot water to take a shower in the morning before work. He has reset my heating times without my knowledge so my heating was on for 5 hours at night. He’s going to financially ruin me. He says I just have to pay for it and laughs at me.
He was offered a CAHMS appointment but didn’t attend. I asked for help from social services but they said we didn’t qualify.
I get no respite. His dad is nearby but is no support in all of this. I’m honestly scared of him.
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Icingonthecake23 · 12/03/2023 21:59
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Donotneedit · 03/03/2024 19:26
oh OP. Really feel for you, life can be so very brutal sometimes. I hope it’s not an overstep, but I suspect if you got in touch with Capa First Response they would still be able to help you and the work they do would probably equip you well to make the right advances towards your son and be ready when (hopefully) he is willing to talk again, sounds like he’s not in a particularly stable place, so there’s always hope for movement. Good luck, whatever you do x
SwordToFlamethrower · 28/03/2024 11:30
Evict him. He is 16 and can go fend for himself.
These are the consequences of being abusive. He could go join the army at age 16
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