What is a reasonable curfew for a 15 year old boy?

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Struggling with this one! I say 10pm (wkds) some of his friend’s have much later times (11/12am). Any consensus, advice? Thks

Depends where he is. At a friend's or designated place 11/12 as long as you are picking up/being dropped home. If mine were out more generally 9pm at the latest. Mostly mine went out with choir, mixture of ages and one of the older ones with cars dropped them home

Depends how they are getting home, what they are doing, who they are with etc.
If at a friend's and they get a lift back then as late as the lift giver can be arsed to do it literally 3am, wouldn't care. If in the park 9pm.

I assume your 15 year old had relatively limited access to money? I'd be less focussed on the curfew time and more focussed on what is a 15 year doing out of the house at night time.

He can't go to pubs
Has limited financial ability to sit in a food outlet or cinema
Can't drive

Really, if my 15 year old was asking to stay out until the late night I'd be wondering where he wanted to go.

If he wants to go to a friends house on a Saturday I think that's okay until say 11pm. But that shouldn't be every Friday and Saturday.

10pm is fine on a school night. Why have one at all on weekends/ holidays?
As long as you know where he is and that he can sleep in the next morning why not just judge each case on its merits?

9 when it's school the next day. 11 when it isn't.

Later, for special events, by negotiation

And not out every night

depends what he is doing and how he is getting home

organised activity - when the activity is over

friends house 9.30 on a school night? 11 ish not on a school night?

outside, hanging around? no - he has to be inside by 8.

A fixed curfew isn't really a thing to concentrate on, it's more consideration for others like disturbing anyone who is sleeping, or keeping others up to speed on coming and going, and using their time wisely.

If mine asked what's the latest I can stay out until, it's a boundary test- mine was very shocked that travelling alone to another town during the day would be more acceptable than hanging around our local area at pub kicking out time on a match day.

I’d be more concerned with where they are going, who they are going with, what they will be doing. More importantly, are they getting their homework done.

I worry about this a lot now my eldest is heading into preteen years. I think a out the things I got up to at 12/13 onwards and shudder at him doing the same.

And then add on to that the thread yesterday on County lines. I think he just might have to stay in forever 😭

Actually, reading the thread about groups of unruly teens, I'd probably roll back on going to the next town!