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Book recommendations for healthy teen relationships

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EndTheCycle · 06/02/2023 00:09

I just found out that my 13yo niece recently left a deeply coercive relationship. Her boyfriend was telling her she wasn’t allowed to hang out or talk to her friends without him being around and he was dictating what she could and could not say to them. Their relationship ended when he started telling her to not talk to them at all and trying to end the friendships.

I’m very proud of her for recognizing that it was an unhealthy relationship. However I was concerned as our family has a long history of controlling men in the family.

Her birthday is coming up and I was hoping to get her an age appropriate book that could help her find healthy relationships in the future and recognize the signs of abuse. I’ve already talked to her mother about this and she thought it would be a great idea as she has recently gotten out of an abusive marriage. She thinks it’s a good idea to get ahead of the problem and make sure her daughter is well informed to try to prevent the cycle from continuing.

She is bisexual if that is relevant so she does date girls sometimes. So anything that is lgb friendly is also welcome.

Does anyone have any age appropriate book recommendations?

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PritiPatelsMaker · 07/02/2023 17:43

No idea on a book sorry but well done to your DN on ending the relationship.

Could you take her out instead and have a chat about how proud you are of recognising that she was in an abusive relationship and ending it?

ChocolateConnoisseur · 08/02/2023 17:46

How about Delete, Block and Move on by Lalala let me explain, I think it's called. Might not be age appropriate. You might want to check

MermaidEyes · 08/02/2023 17:53

PritiPatelsMaker · 07/02/2023 17:43

No idea on a book sorry but well done to your DN on ending the relationship.

Could you take her out instead and have a chat about how proud you are of recognising that she was in an abusive relationship and ending it?

This is a really good idea. I also think you should stress to her that at 13 she has absolutely no need to be in a relationship. Family, friends and school are so much more important. Relationships are for older teens and adults who are more emotionally equipped to deal with them.

ClosedAuraOpenMind · 08/02/2023 18:04

How about Girl Up by Laura Bates of the Everyday Sexism project - described as a sort of life guide for teenage girls? might work

Oblomov23 · 08/02/2023 18:17

Interesting. I don't know of any suitable book that addresses this.

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