I have 2 daughters, 16 and 14. We've always all got on fine and been close. In the last few months though the youngest has started to pull away from me and I don't know if I'm over reacting, but it's hurtful
I know it's natural for them to start to move away and assert independence, but it only seems to apply to me. She used to come and hug both me and my husband (her Dad) equally, but now it's just him that she speaks to and hugs. When I offer a hug or try to engage it gets politely brushed off or declined. I arrive home from work and get nothing, or even a 'good morning'. When she sees Dad though it's all hugs, and how was your day.
There's been no fight, no argument. She's doing fine in school and with friends. I can't even say she's being rude or aggressive or argumentative, just completely not bothered if I'm there or not - like a stranger or staff. I try and do stuff with her, give her various lifts etc, but nothing from her when we do this.
When I try and mention it she looks like she has no clue what I'm talking about and looks faintly annoyed before going back to her phone. I work hard and pay for much of the stuff she has and uses like Netflix. I don't even mention this though. My husband laughs it off when I mention it to him, he thinks it's funny, but it's blatant favoritism and I would never show it between her and her sister. I'm beginning to feel like an outsider in my own home.
Am I being un reasonable. Anyone else get this? I wouldn't mind a blazing row as it would mean some sort of communication. It's the complete indifference.