How much do you do with your teens at weekends?

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I am missing family activities- mostly my teens (17 and 14) are doing own thing in their rooms- sleeping gaming watching own shows doing homewoek

Maybe we do a family meal or family walk or game over whole weekend

How much time to do you spend together?

Not much - I have one 14 year old. We try to have our dinners together, otherwise she is with friends/in her room.
This is why I like taking vacations, as we have some activities together then. Of course, with her phone as a constant companion, but at least it's doing things she enjoys and will - hopefully - remember as nice.

Very little, sadly. 2 x 16 who are at the gym or in their rooms gaming.

We cook a curry on a Saturday, which we eat while watching a film, which I grab with both hands.

I think food is the key. We don't eat out much, but they will come if it's on offer.
Booked an apartment for a one nighter city visit in Feb half term, mainly just to get some time with them!

I might add, I cook the curry. They eat it 🤣

Meals occasional walk with younger one / scrabble articulate most weekends but they both love eating out and theatre so we do that as a family. They often seeing friends / Saturday job / dance / homework etc so have their own stuff going on

It gets better - Ds is at uni and rings and texts every day and whenever we visit it’s lovely he has to stay with us 😂 but when he comes home - he raids the cupboards and fridge, gets the cat and goes to his room 😂.
But he has rung me and suggested I hop on the tram
and he will treat me to coffee and we walk around the city arm in arm like he actually knows me !!!(usually when I’ve been on holiday and he’s got duty free treats) x

Both sporty, so lots!
Sat am, one of us watches DS play school match, one of us watches DD play club hockey match.
Depending on venue/match time, we then have a meal together out or at home.

Sunday, DD at stables all day and DS at club training am. Always family dinner in eve.

To be honest, I have always had my best convos with them in the car, so driving to/from matches is a great opportunity.

One thing a day if possible - a proper sit down shared meal or a trip out, plus a certain amount of random shopping, car trips and dog walking. I sort of mind, but I appreciate the chance to rebuild my life.

I think food, spending money on them, dog walking and car trips are your best strategies

If not playing guitar, working in music shop (Sunday job) or with friends, a good amount really . Ds is 17 and we're pretty close. He will come out for meals with us and likes a car boot sale. He and I go to the theatre together occasionally and he enjoys going to Rock gigs with his dad as they share the same taste in music.

For them to spend time with me it costs me money.

Otherwise, they are at friends/work/gym/sleepovers/in their rooms on the xbox/doing homework (15 and 17).

They are lovely but I'm boring to them. They don't want to have movie nights/board game nights with just me. If I invite my cousin or my brother over for cards they will happily join in but for just the 3 of us it is rare. Me and dd watch films/series but she's a lot busier than me nowadays.

They are happy to spend time with me doing things - but it costs. So eating out/playing pool at the pub/cinema/bowlin/climbing wall - all acceptable. In summer we have paddle boards and do go to the river together. They also love surfing and still happily go camping. Outdoors adventures in summer work well but spending time together in the house doesn't.

It's sad but I don't let them know this or try to put my needs on to them/make them feel bad for having a life. I'm building my life up again with my friends and own hobbies.

I love spending time with dd. Shes 13.
Mon/Fri we maybe spend 2 hours together after I've finished work, she mainly talks me through her day and we play board/card games. About 8.30pm she will go and chat to her mates for an hour before she goes to bed.

Weekends when I'm not at work/she's finished work - loads. Today we have been swimming, shopping in town, Mcdonalds, massive singing competition in the car, walked the dog, now sat watching TV together.

We do spend a fair bit of time together as they always seem to be in the kitchen, but not doing much.
We'll watch some tv together, eat meals, visit family and the odd day out.

Mine are a similar age and like you, very little.
They do both play sport at weekends so we'll take them to that and watch the match. We also usually have Sunday dinner all together.
Other than that, ds17 does his own thing. He's a bit more sociable when his girlfriend is round. Ds13 has only just started hanging out in his room rather than with us, but he's generally here for mealtimes and will sit with us to watch a film / TV series.
Yesterday I didn't see either of them pretty much all day.
I miss family days out too OP, but with ds17 if we don't expect too much he's actually a lot nicer when we do spend time together!

Not much, I have 2 boys 19 and 16. For a longtime I missed the routine weekend activities of museum, allotment etc. I try and ensure at least 1 family activity per weekend apart from meals but sometimes I feel I’m rowing against the tide. Managed a game of scrabble today and I had a job preventing an all out row about allowable words.

Nothing they do their own thing!

I don't remember doing anything with my mum as a teen my friends were my priority!

Mine doesn’t do anything with me any more .

@TheGander I also made my teens play scrabble which ended with ds stropping off about a word after the millionth word bicker.

They're lovely round other people though 😩