His dad and I have always encouraged him to do his best, we are both quite high achievers, but DS hated school to the extent he refused to go from the age of 14. Unsurprisingly he left with no qualifications or aspirations. We were disappointed but accepted we are all different and have continued to support him in every way we can. He has had a couple of jobs which his Dad got for him, but he has lost them due to his laziness. His Dad and I have a strong work ethic so are struggling with this blaze outlook and lack of care.
We have spoken to him about his future and importance of starting to grow up a bit and accept some kind of responsibility. He currently works part time for a fast food restaurant, great we are pleased he has a job (on his own merit!). However, he had a big strop on Christmas Eve at work as his manager told him he needed to work quicker, (he was mopping) but said it in an aggressive way (according to DS). DS basically told him to F off and threw his hat on the counter top and did a full on stomp and door slam.
He met with a different manager today to discuss the incident and luckily he has kept his job (miraculously). I sometimes wonder whether he was switched at birth as he seems to have come from a different gene pool to us. He doesn’t seem to have any work ethic, he doesn’t care about consequences, he regularly is caught smoking weed out of his bedroom window (I confiscate all smoking paraphernalia when this happens), he’s so lazy it’s unbelievable. He moved his girlfriend in a couple of months ago (she’s no problem though, she’s respectful, pays rent and helps with laundry etc).
Every time I speak to him about these issues he just says sorry mum or yeah I’ll do that later and then never does. If I just left him to his own devices he would never do anything other than socialise with friends, and live on take always in squalor. He wouldn’t care about anything either. I don’t know how to deal with him, is this really disrespectful or just typical?