Teen sex texting

[lottie2888]

My 14 year old admitted to me last night that they and their 15 year old GF have been exchanging sex related text messages.
from what I understand GF mum checked her phone and found messages between the two of them.
She messaged my DC to say to stay away from her daughter. Which I’m not surprised about. I don’t think she knew they were in a relationship.

what do I do now though!

They have told me they haven’t shared photos only texts and they haven’t kissed or anything.

They don’t want to show me the messages they sent each other. But would other parents insist on seeing?

Half of me doesn’t want to insist as I feel it’s private but the other half thinks that I need to know what has been said incase it’s anything really bad that needs discussion.

I don't understand teens.
Haven't even kissed yet sexting.
It's all backwards.

As they are under 16 I would want to know the content and to be able to guide my DC as to what is appropriate.

@TeenDivided i know!!!!!!
i guess it’s all easier over text messages.

@maryofthevirginkind that’s what I am thinking.
I guess their idea of bad messages might be different to mine.

Depending on the level of what they are sending each other, it could actually be illegal. Most people dont understand that if a child sends indecent images of themselves it is still a crime.

Thats without the risk that it can be shared across social media in the blink of an eye

Hope this helps a bit.

My 15 year old started sexting at 13.
Including sharing inappropriate pictures.
Many times I have sat down with her and explained why it is not a good idea. She has SN and as a result still does it but not as often. Support workers have also done work with her about this which is ongoing.

When I check her phone and I see inappropriate pictures I will block or remove those apps for a couple of weeks as a consequence. She still gets to use the phone and any apps she has not sexted on. So she can still communicate with peers etc.

I have to check her phone everyday.

As they are underage I do think you should read them so you have a better understanding about what happened and how to move forward.

Dd age 14 doesnt do this at all. And can be trusted not to have the phone checked like that.