Ds18 doing coke

[dakel]

Don't really know why I writing this, just feel I can't speak to anyone in real life.

So I've found out ds is doing coke every weekend. I saw a message pop up on his phone whilst he asked me to put it on charge for him. The message said "do you have that £160 for the sniff".
Obviously he has it every weekend, he goes out at night gets back between 5.30am-7.30am then sleeps all day.

His dad gave him £300 last Thursday for Christmas, I asked what he'd bought he said nothing I must have just spent it! He was out Friday and Saturday last weekend.
He gets paid on a Friday and has nothing left by Monday/Tuesday. If I say anything to him I just get attitude from him saying it's his money he's 18 he can spend it on what he wants. Yes I know this is true!

I know there is nothing I can do or say but i just wish he would stop blowing his money every weekend on drink and drugs and grow up. Since splitting from his girlfriend a couple of weeks ago he got worse.

Just wondered has anyone else been in this situation with their 18 year old. Did you just leave them to it, when did they start to grow up?

I dread every weekend he goes out, im awake most of the night worrying about when he will be home and if he's ok

I got into trouble with drugs at age 19. Spending all my money on it and I lost a dramatic amount of weight.

My parents found out, went mental. Locked me up and threw away the key. And I had an on again off again relationship with drugs in my 20's

I feel for you OP. I feel like every time I took them now was such a waste of my time. But at the time, seemed like the best time of my life.

As previous posters have said, keep open communication. I wish my parents did. I was too scared to talk to anyone about how addicted I was. I put myself in some sketchy situations and I would've never turned to my parents if anything went wrong. Maybe let him know that you want to be able to talk openly about it? I hope he grows out of it!

I'd like to say that it's just a teenage phase but sadly it is very common for people nowadays to carry on coke usage through their 20's too. My circle of friends were very heavy users and wouldn't go a night out without it. It's quite sad. Now they have children they've definitely calmed down. I was naive to believe only a few people I knew took coke. But it actually turned out about 50% of my workplace also took it and about 70% of my friends (in different circles and walks of life, including family men).

£300 cash for Christmas knowing he's a coke user? You're enabling him ffs

I didn't give him that for Christmas it was his dad. I didn't know until now about him using coke every weekend. If I'd have known I would have told his dad not to give him cash. We're separated