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Snoopystick · 03/12/2022 16:19

DS has an acquaintance who is a 17 year old male. He’s popular on TiK Tok. DS had advised me that the male is now on Only Fans and men are paying him for naked pics as some have been leaked. Not sure what to do about this information if anything. Any suggestions welcome, I could contact his mum via social media, I don’t know her very well though.

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PritiPatelsMaker · 03/12/2022 22:33

I can see why you'd be concerned. Are they at college/sixth form together?

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Snoopystick · 04/12/2022 08:17

Thanks for replying. No, they used to be connected through a mutual sports team. Otherwise I could have raised it via School.

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tunthebloodyalarmoff · 04/12/2022 08:22

Why don't you just Mind your own business

girlmom21 · 04/12/2022 08:23

Report him to Only Fans if he's underage

twinmum2022 · 04/12/2022 08:23

Tricky one, 17 is very young to make that decision, however I don't know the age restrictions around only fans but I imagine it must be 18?

Are you friendly with his mum? I doubt very much she knows so I think I'd be sensitive but blunt in telling her. A lot of 17 year olds are still very vulnerable...

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Snoopystick · 04/12/2022 08:24

That’s what I’m worried about and don’t want to poke my nose in where it’s not wanted, but if it was my lad I’d want to know

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DenholmElliot11 · 04/12/2022 08:25

tunthebloodyalarmoff · 04/12/2022 08:22

Why don't you just Mind your own business

Come on @tunthebloodyalarmoff . This is the teenager board. It's where people come for support for teenagers. Have you got any helpful suggestions?

OP I can only think to report it to OnlyFans, I don't know what else you can do really.

twinmum2022 · 04/12/2022 08:27

tunthebloodyalarmoff · 04/12/2022 08:22

Why don't you just Mind your own business

She's expressing concern for a young man who's making quite important life choices at an early age - personally I think she's right to consider telling his mum. She's not judging, or trying to be nosey - it's been put in her lap by him telling his friends.

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Snoopystick · 04/12/2022 08:27

tunthebloodyalarmoff · 04/12/2022 08:22

Why don't you just Mind your own business

I’m half expecting that will be his mum’s attitude as well and that is mostly why I’m being reticent

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WetBandits · 04/12/2022 08:29

tunthebloodyalarmoff · 04/12/2022 08:22

Why don't you just Mind your own business

Safeguarding is everyone’s business 👍🏼

twinmum2022 · 04/12/2022 08:31

If it is his mums reaction at least you know you've done what you can from your side OP.

I really honestly doubt she does know, but if your concerned you can report it to OnlyFans and I imagine they'll take his account down. Doesn't mean he won't find other ways though which could potentially not be as well regulated.

Do you know his mum personally?

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Snoopystick · 04/12/2022 08:32

WetBandits · 04/12/2022 08:29

Safeguarding is everyone’s business 👍🏼

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Yes you’re right. I’m having a long hard thing about what to do. So difficult!

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Snoopystick · 04/12/2022 08:34

Just to say, I know his mum slightly - just by being at same sports events in the past but they no longer attend. I wouldn’t say we are friendly just acquaintances but I know how to contact her.

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Hiddenvoice · 04/12/2022 09:02

Personally I would contact his mum and let her know you’ve been passed on the information.
As a pp mentioned, safe guarding is everyone’s issue. If his mum isn’t bothered then leave it with her as you’ve done the right thing.

iamjustwinginglife · 04/12/2022 09:18

It's an offence for the men to have explicit photographs/videos of this child and it's an offence for him to send them. The police don't tend to want to criminalise teenagers who get caught up in sending pictures to their boyfriends/girlfriends however this is a much wider audience and the men who have signed up to his site are committing an offence by possessing it and if they were to send it on then they're distributing child being pornography. They could end up prosecuted even though they probably think he's 18.

Personally, I'd tell his mum and risk being told to mind my own business.

childlawadvice.org.uk/information-pages/sexting/

MeJane · 04/12/2022 09:23

If you know what school or college he goes to you could speak to one of the safeguarding team there.

LlynTegid · 04/12/2022 13:57

I'd be contacting Only Fans and if they did not act, the police.

It is everyone's business.

tunthebloodyalarmoff · 04/12/2022 14:05

LlynTegid · 04/12/2022 13:57

I'd be contacting Only Fans and if they did not act, the police.

It is everyone's business.

No it isn't the boy is just someone he knows why do people have to stick their oar in

MeJane · 04/12/2022 14:16

No it isn't the boy is just someone he knows why do people have to stick their oar in

It's called living in a society. It's not an episode of Shameless.

WetBandits · 04/12/2022 16:04

tunthebloodyalarmoff · 04/12/2022 14:05

No it isn't the boy is just someone he knows why do people have to stick their oar in

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Because, legally, he is a child being exploited and men are (probably unknowingly) paying for access to naked photos of a child.

How the fuck can you not see what a huge problem that is? Is it just because he’s a boy or would you say the same about a girl?

rwalker · 04/12/2022 16:23

that’s difficult
only fans has disclaimers and terms and conditions do anybody viewing it is more than reasonable to presume there over 18 so I don’t think anyone there would be seemed to commit an offence
I’d be tempted to keep out he’s obviously happy for naked pictures to be in the public domain
totally different from him sending a private picture and that’s been shared

the only thing you could do is report him to only fans as he’s clearly declared he’s 18 when he isn’t

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