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Teenagers

Parenting teenagers has its ups and downs. Get advice from Mumsnetters here.

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antsypants · 07/11/2022 07:35

My DD has just turned 13 and is really suffering from anxiety and depression... She recently took an overdose of paracetamol, which was a bolt out of the blue, and has been self harming for what seems like the past six months, scratching herself etc.

She saw a crisis team after taking the paracetamol, but as she had taken a low dose, had told me what she had done, and seemed okay, they discharged her as she was no longer kn crisis... we are waiting for a referral request from the GP for Cahms and ADHD testing.

I try to give her as much privacy as I can, but I looked through her snapchat last night and she was asking for advice on how to kill herself... I'm at my wits end, and at a loss of what to do or say to keep her safe.

She is constantly missing school due to anxiety, she feels like everyone is judging her and staring at her, she lies on her messages to her friends, telling people that I or her dad are shouting at her, calling her names etc, she lies about being with boys or things she is doing.

She is an only child, and I have a very open relationship with her, so she does talk to me, but it is almost as if she is pretending her life is more traumatic than it has been and that she is doing a lot of things for dramatic effect.

Please don't take that as me dismissing things, even if she was doing all of this for attention, its destructive to her and thats a problem that needs addressing jn itself.

I guess I'm just hoping to hear some friendly voices/advice etc on how best to help her through this.

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PritiPatelsMaker · 07/11/2022 08:28

Is she ok to go to the GP today and say that she is still having suicidal thoughts?

My DD has suspected ADHD and is super sensitive to any criticism. We're still learning and get a lot of the same sort if comments and meltdowns as your DD but have changed things around somewhat by almost love bombing her. So if she walks in the room, we beam at her and find something to complement her on. Even if she sits with me and watches tv, not often and it's usually so she can see DDog, I give her a hug and tell her how much I love her and how much I love spending time with her.

antsypants · 07/11/2022 12:37

PritiPatelsMaker · 07/11/2022 08:28

Is she ok to go to the GP today and say that she is still having suicidal thoughts?

My DD has suspected ADHD and is super sensitive to any criticism. We're still learning and get a lot of the same sort if comments and meltdowns as your DD but have changed things around somewhat by almost love bombing her. So if she walks in the room, we beam at her and find something to complement her on. Even if she sits with me and watches tv, not often and it's usually so she can see DDog, I give her a hug and tell her how much I love her and how much I love spending time with her.

Hi, we have spoken to the GP this morning, their advice was to stop letting people get to her (roll eyes) but they are following up on her current referral.

Thanks for the advice re love bombing, I do try to lavish her with affection whenever I can, but on reflection recently I have been trying to let her have her space and disappear into her room, so will give that a go!

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