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Teenagers

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what should my 18year old pay me in board?

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Jolee82 · 29/10/2022 22:02

really need some advice ive got an 18 year old daughter who works full time im a single parent and also have a 5 year old , i get the very minimum in benefits majority off which go on bills, my 18yo does hardly anything to help around the house and as recently bought a dog, everytime we discuss her helping me out money wise i end up feeling like im trying to commit robbery this week she earned £130 almost 100 off which was spent on the dog some weeks she earns 250 since she started work she gave me 100 one week as i had too make a fuss and almost beg for some contribution we had a good chat and agreed £50 a week would be a great help , week 1 this week and guess what no £50 i didnt even ask for the money she offered too do the shopping, she shopped for the dog, i feel guilty for being mad about the situation its making me misserable and causing tension in the home, i really am at my wits end had enough off being made too feel like this, she cant understand if she lived elsewhere she would have no choice too pay rent, bills,council tax plus eat herself buy her own toiletries, shes absoloutely terrible with money but not willing too accept advice, any help and advice would be much appreciated

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Pumpkinpatchlookinggood · 29/10/2022 22:04

20% has been the going rate here. At eldest dc's suggestion. One dc paid 10 %and had 10 %in a mortgage savings account.. Worked well and he bought a house at 24...

Dacadactyl · 29/10/2022 22:05

I would tell her outright she needs to stop taking the piss.

Why is she earning variable amounts? 100 pound a week is extremely low if she is FT?

Jolee82 · 29/10/2022 22:17

yh shes full time and ive tryed the out right approach she gets emotional and makes me feel like im being out of order its like she actually thinks im in the wrong and she cant understand the majority off teenagers have to pay board working or not

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Justmuddlingalong · 29/10/2022 22:27

She can set up a weekly payment on her phone's banking app. It'll take 2 minutes to do and should be non negotiable. She's taking the piss, don't allow that to continue.

Harpydragon · 29/10/2022 22:32

Mine pays us 25%.

We had a big discussion when he started work. I read somewhere about how to split your money so 50%on bills, 20% on savings, 30% on spending for whatever you want.

We agreed that his 50% would be split half with us and half into an iSA to help him save for a deposit for a house. His 20% savings are for things like holidays, gifts for Christmas & birthdays etc etc.

He understands the need to pay his way, it's teaching him that he cannot just waste all his wages, that some of it has to go on housing, utilities and food.

LondonQueen · 29/10/2022 22:48

Nothing, I couldn't charge my children money to live in their own home. However she should be helping round the house.

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