Anyone else feel like they're in a house share

[CatchersAndDreams]

House share one minute with almost adults that you're financially responsible for and counting down uni days - then welling up in tears about them moving on and out. I really want my own space but I really don't want to not have my lovely dc around. They are lovely as well, they're so far from nightmare teens that I feel guilty about wanting my own space.

Me me me! My son has gone to Uni and I feel guilty that I am glad! Teenagers are hard work! Love him to bits but we both need our own space x

Mines just turned 18!

I know exactly how you feel.

Some days I'm like "I'd miss the bones of him if he moves out" (he's autistic so that one's up for debate!) and other I'm

"This place would be sooooo much tidier, cleaner and my food bill reduced of he didn't live here"

No I never felt like this and always miss her when she’s not here, we have a great relationship and muddle along well.

Totally agree

My eldest recently moved home after living with her dad so it’s now me, DD16 and DD18. She’s had to move into the tiny box room as that was her bedroom when she would visit. DD16 has the main bedroom. Any tips on expanding the house without an expensive extension? Caravan? I’d almost happily move myself onto a sofa bed and use the box room for a closet? Has anyone done this? She’s going to be here a few years and needs more space but I don’t want to swap rooms just yet.

I am craving my own space so badly. I just want to live alone with my cat today!

Tomorrow I'll feel sad and cook them their favourite food. There's no balance, I'm a pendulum.

I am exactly the same OP!

Some days I'm really sad to think about DD1 leaving in 2 years time. I get a bit depressed imagining life without her and how I will go on....I will be empty. I will still have DD2 at home, she's a teen also but is much quieter and more self-contained.

Other days I just want to be left alone and want to shout at DD1 to stop talking at me, stop making life so hard, stop 'being everywhere'.

I sound unhinged, I know.

In fact I feel heartbroken at times imagining life when she won't be here, keeping me company and watching comedies together on TV, going shopping together, eating out 😭

After DS left for uni, I felt bereft and would go into his room and just sit on his bed.
When he returned for Christmas, initially it was lovely, then after about a week of mess and the fridge being emptied, I was desperate for him to go back to uni. I did feel guilty, but not too much.

@GoodVibesHere not unhinged at all.

I always struggled with needing my own space when they were small, they had early bedtimes 😂. In secondary they were at their dad's eow and went round my dms for tea once a week so my need for space was actualised. Now they don't go eow and my dm moved away. It's making me miserable!

I want to well up at the thought of dd1, nearly 18, leaving for uni next year. But then other days I can’t wait. I love her dearly and she’s a well behaved hard working girl, but has always been more emotionally draining than her younger sister.

she’s ready to fly the nest and have more independence. Though of course I will miss her terribly when she actually goes.