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17 yr old son

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K7111 · 19/10/2022 08:52

I've written on here before...here I go again... my son was kicked out of school and was allowed to return for GCSEs which he did, we never had any problems getting him to school. His grades were mainly 3's in English and Maths. He went for a business course at a local college and last week I had a call from the tutor - telling me that he can't work my son out saying he 'slipped through the net' and that he is not cut out for this course. Basically rubbished all his work (I had a look in his book and he hadn't written much for 6 wks at college. My son obv took it very personally as he has had knock back after knock back (mostly created by him due to stupid behaviour - teens!!) So there was a bit of an argument hence we have to go into college today for a meeting with 3 lecturers. My son also had a meeting with them last week following the heated discussion. We've had so much to deal with, even police and stealing money around the house. And still there is an 'incident' hanging over us with police (another story for another thread maybe 🤔). I am really struggling and can't see the light at the end of this very long tunnel. I am making myself ill with worry. Feeling very low but trying to keep my head above it all and acting normal at work. I am just worried for my sons future as it looks like he will be dismissed from this course today and we will need to get him into something else, another college or even work maybe? Just more challenges!! I know no one can wave a magic wand but it's one thing after another 😔 oh and btw my husband is a hot head and not happy at all about how the college are dealing with things, but I am like well maybe this isn't the course for him anyway! He does come home saying he had a 'boring' day 🤨 just needed a rant @menopausalteenagehelllife

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HighlandPony · 19/10/2022 08:54

get him in work. There’s no point sticking him on courses he’s not interested in and taking places away from those who are. Let him earn his way until he figures out who he is and what he wants.

Sago1 · 19/10/2022 09:11

It sounds as though there is an underlying problem, the incident involving the Police is possibly causing him some angst.
If he is involved with drugs or a bad crowd then my advice would be to try and get him out of the area for a while.

K7111 · 19/10/2022 09:49

Getting him a job is prob the best option. Just need to figure out what.

Taking him out of the area, well that's ok if you can 😕 we're not in that position

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OnTheBrinkOfChange · 19/10/2022 10:00

An apprenticeship would be best, one where he is physically tired at the end of the day, and one where he is working with men. It's really important that he works with older men who don't think his behaviour is funny or appropriate, he will then conform.

Your husband is being ridiculous about college. Colleges hang onto students as long as they can. Would your husband put up with this behaviour at work?

Avidreader69 · 19/10/2022 10:06

I agree with an apprenticeship. You could start by looking here:

www.findapprenticeship.service.gov.uk/apprenticeshipsearch?_ga=2.57123498.1426861426.1666170274-2069696728.1658349409

K7111 · 19/10/2022 10:09

@onthebrinkofchange
Yes that's what I want for him, Hband wants to take him to jobcenter 😕
Hband works in a very male environment. But can't get him job there cos it's emergency services.

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