DD contraceptive advice

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DD is 18, has a serious BF also 18, they are sexually actively and she is on the pill.

DD and I have a good relationship, and we talk openly about a lot of stuff including contraception.

However DD is convinced that the pill alone is not sufficient birth control (condoms also used). Neither DD or BF have ever been with anyone else so the risk STD is nil/extremely low.

It's not something we talk about frequently, but she has an appointment to review her pill this week, so the subject has come up.

I absolutely know it's none of my business, and it's a very good thing that this generation are encouraged to use condoms, but I see my role as her mum is to provide her with the correct information so she can make her own decisions.

So my question is this ...

Am I correct to say that the contraceptive pill is sufficient birth control, and condoms are not necessary?

Double barrier method is always best so the pill and condoms are perfect. No idea why you want to increase the possibility of her falling pregnant!

No. If she gets a tummy upset the pill could not work, then they could have a condiment accident and she’s pregnant.
The implant will work even with a tummy bug.

she's right, the pill is very vulnerable to failure! support her! she can get free condoms from any clinic. why would you even see make any comments about std risk - is she extremely anxious about this issue specifically?

if you have a sickness bug - pregnancy
accidentally skip a day - pregnancy
not taken at same time of day - pregnancy

not starting a new pack right away - pregnancy
antibiotics, epilepsy meds, some herbal remedies - pregnancy

plus, why should it be all on her? hormones have an incredibly negative effect on some women. in the future she shouldn't shoulder the burden automatically without ever expecting men to do anything. if they both dont want babies he needs to wrap it - shouldn't be all left up to her
i tell my sons not to hand over all your responsibility to female partners - you don't know if the contraceptive is working 100%, 9 women out of 100 get pregnant anyway even if no errors/failures, so why not use a condom too to lower the risk..

as an aside

"they could have a condiment accident" made me laugh 🤣

My ds and his gf used both at that age in the same situation. Very sensible.
And they're now 25, still together and I'm not a grandmother

I think very sensible using both how many posts on here are of people on the pill having accidents?

If they are happy to use condoms I don't know why you would encourage them not to!
though I would suggest she tries a long acting contraceptive as the pill is liable to failure.

Am I correct to say that the contraceptive pill is sufficient birth control, and condoms are not necessary?

No, that would be really weird of you to say. She is being very sensible and doubling up on her contraception, I'm not sure why any parent would want to dismiss the benefit of using condoms.

Your DD sounds much more sensible than you.

Thanks for replies, I’m glad they’re being sensible and of course double protection is better.
A Pp asked if she was anxious, actually the only thing that was making her anxious was that she couldn’t trust the pill without a condom, so this stemmed from me trying to reassure her, but I’m obviously very happy they’re taking protection seriously.

You can end a pregnancy quickly and safely.

You can not end many STI so easily. People cheat and women are more at risk of STIs than males why would you ever discourage condoms. It's a good life habit for her especially if they break up and she meets someone new