15 year old does nothing!!

[Archersandlemonade]

Hi all, unless I am organising something, my 15 year old does very little in their spare time. Maybe bake, maybe the occasional art. Otherwise on phone all the time , she’s not very motivated she says the friends that she has never want to do anything. It’s draining and I’m worried for her future . When she was little she had swimming lessons, went to dance, horse riding but she hasn’t wanted to do anything like that for years .
is it just mine?

Sympathy and empathy from me but no advice. Mine is 13 and like this. It does worry me but I take comfort in the fact that he continues to do well in school. He spends a lot of time listening to music and making videos but also a lot of time watching crap and not as much interaction as I'd like. I also console myself that his elder sister was like this until recently but since this summer (she's 15) has started going out a lot - so it could change.

My DD has a few clubs still but rarely arranges to see friends. She's very busy with school and I think just needs the downtime at home.
If she's happy I wouldn't worry too much.

Sounds about normal.

My 15 yo DD is very different to this. I have very strict rules on phones and screentime (not allowed in the bedroom and I take the phones away if I think they've had them too long etc) though, so this might be why.

She does lots of activities outside of school too. But among my friends, my DD would be the odd one out because their kids have given up their activities.

I said to mine that if they give up their activities, they have to give me their screens cos they don't get to sit down doing nothing when they could be getting fit or educated.

Phones are addictive like Crack cocaine.

Not too late to take it off her for chunks of time at the weekend and just let her survive without it

I think that is a bit young to basically let her give up and spend all her time on her phone tbh although I appreciate most people on MN seem to think that kids that age are practically adults and can do what they like! DD was sliding that way around that age. We moved her to a school with compulsory sport - two training sessions a week, one before school one after and Saturday games (so much choice I defy any kid not to find something of interest and DD is not sporty). There was also choir, drama productions and musicals, she was pretty much occupied 7am-7pm during the week. She got a boyfriend at 17 so would spend time with him at weekends but he had a similar schedule. My goal was to keep her busy and motivated with plenty of exercise until she left school and it worked.

It's because you gave her a smart phone and you allow her to spend all her time on it.
It's on you.

@WindowsSmindows you've obviously not got a teenager, you try not letting a teen have a smartphone these days. smartphones and tech are an important part of life these days my dd uses hers for homework we are in a digital world now unfortunately. it's easier said than done not letting them have these devices they would feel so isolated and left out from their peer group as they've all got them and no teen wants to be the odd one out. yes I agree on restrictions on screen time my dd has to leave hers downstairs at bedtime etc.

I have a fifteen year old in fact. And I stand by what I said. Too many lazy parents blaming hormones or social media when they should be looking at their own parenting.