Wondering how other parents are managing how involved they are at 16 with their DC.
Me and DD have a good relaitonship but I feel over the last year she's slipped in lots of ways. She is quite anti-social in lots of ways but this often verges on rude and I really hate that as I just think there is no need to be rude.
Recently gone off to college, I am giving a lunch allowance but I am finding she is spending it on crap, example today in her room is a pot noodle cup 2x bags of sharing chocolate and a milkshake, that's just the evidence that's come home. I'm not expecting her to eat clean but that is taking the mick. She also has some stomach problems that we've never got to the bottom of but it will play up if she eats rubbish, she knows this.
Recently had some antibiotics for a chest infection and also some cream for another ailment, neither of which she is using consistently or taking properly. Until I remind her when she comes home.
Hygiene is questionable at times also.
I am concerned about her phone usage (have been for a long time) as in how much time she spends on it and this sucks her motivation for anything. Also one particular friendship, she's been friends with them for a while but it seems when she spends lots of time with them she goes downhill in her mood, looking after herself, not wanting to be with anyone else etc. but she's ridiculously attached to them, drives me mad!
But at 16 how can I stop all this, I have previously removed the phone/put restrictions on (some still on) and said no to going out with friend etc. but it feels like now is when she needs to start learning to do this stuff for herself, I guess I'm scared she won't.