I've posted before on here about various incidents, but NC.
My almost 18yo left school this year.
His part time summer job ended two weeks ago. He's been applying for a new job for a few weeks before this.
Earlier this week, after a night out, and too many drinks (again) he had an absolute meltdown about having no job, and how all his friends are going to uni or college, or have jobs and he has absolutely nothing and hates it here. Told me that the day before he applied for the army. Went off on one about our town, the country, society, the PM.
Crying in my arms, rocking back and forward one minute, ranting and raving the next.
It was horrible to witness and I took the next day off work as I was upset myself and shattered.
I thought we had come up with a plan over the next few days. We looked at some college courses that he seemed somewhat interested in. They start in January and end in June. I sent him links to lots of jobs to apply for in the meantime. Full and part time.
Told him to send me his CV and I'd have a look at it, and print it off. Suggested he go back to the local careers advisor and get her to look over it with him.
Said I'd pay for him to do a first aid course and a short construction skills course.
Suggested some volunteering for on his CV.
I told him I'd pay for next weeks driving lesson and he could pay for the week after, out of money he has saved for car insurance (this is the only money he has saved out of the money he was earning all summer, and before, when he was sometimes making £250 a week).
He has his test booked for January, and I've said that turning 18 plus having his licence will increase the number of jobs he can apply for, in time.
Now he says he never agreed to apply to college. He's not applying for jobs in hospitality because he doesn't want to, despite having experience in it. He's not sent me his CV or contacted the careers office.
Basically every single thing I suggest is being ignored.
He just wants a job, on his terms. Which is clearly not happening for him.
He's happy to take money from me so he can see his mates, or for me to pay for his lessons, but any other input is clearly not required.
And no, he won't speak to anyone about how he is feeling. He's done that before and apparently that was a waste of our money and we forced him. Even though at the time, he told us it helped.
I'm worried about his mental health the longer he has no routine or focus, but he won't even give himself options.