Ok well to start I told them not to bother buying me a present, they are 19 and 22 they both live a 3 hour drive from me.
lone of them bought me a present in March and said it was an early birthday present( it was quite expensive) so I said don’t worry about getting me something you’ve spent enough on me.
the other one is tight on money as he’s just got his own place so I said not to worry about it.
in no way do I expect money to be spent on me, but I did think I would get a bar of chocolate as a gesture.
I don’t give to receive but it was more an acknowledgment of how much I do for them.
I gave one £3000 for a car, the other had 2000 to help him move, I used all my savings to help which I did happily and do not begrudge them it at all. I offered they didn’t ask.
im a mumsy mum if you know what I mean, nothing is to much trouble for any of my children
am I been selfish? I did say don’t bother but I didn’t think they would do nothing.
I’ve had a card off one and the other is lost in the post.