Page 2 | How can I accept the fact that my child will likely turn out FUBAR?

Ariannee · 2022-10-04T13:22:29+00:00

Basically the title. This world keeps getting worse and worse and I feel like it's almost impossible to insulate my child from it. Is there anything in the future that should give me hope as a parent?

Waitingfordecember · 04/10/2022 16:06

FourTeaFallOut · 04/10/2022 15:51

Every single one of us on the planet today comes from a line of ancestors who outran war, famines and plagues long enough to procreate and keep their children alive long enough to have their own children.

I'm certainly not going to be the one in the line who throws their hands up in the air and say it's all too hard when I'm sat here in a secure home in peaceful times and I can walk down to the shops and fill my boots with more calories than I can shake a stick at.

I'm raising my kids to be adaptable, capable and optimistic. Then they can make their own choices about what they do.

This! Life is very rarely perfect but we are living in in incredibly fortunate time (even with current events making things difficult for so many).

Even with the cost of living crisis, the vast majority of the UK is living in more comfort than the richest people of the past. If the human race can make it this far, we’ll probably be alright.

Your child is not ‘FUBAR’. He could be part of the team that cures cancer, comes up with a way to reverse climate change, or just lives a perfectly adequate life with a normal amount of struggles.

ThisShipIsSinking · 04/10/2022 16:07

Well what a healthy mindset you have there.
People are governed by fear, this whole forum is fear fuelled. Stay off the news, its toxic, focus on all the things going right, and encourage your kids to live their lives to the best of their ability. l don' t share these fears, life have always been difficult, you just need to be resourceful and build resilience. You can still live a beautiful way of life whilst all hell breaks lose if you have a healthy mindset, its never your circumstances, its how you choose to react to them.

NoodleSnow · 04/10/2022 17:25

It’s scary and the barrage of news is overwhelming. I find comfort in thinking of my grandmother who was raised in a world on fire (WWI) and raised her own children in a world on fire (WWII) and never complained about anything.

Goingforarun · 04/10/2022 17:36

You are putting your own depressed feelings into a child. Be aware of that.

MintyCedricHereWeGoAgain · 04/10/2022 18:08

You don't.

You calm the fuck down, love them unconditionally, support their dreams and teach them resilience and standing up for what they believe in.

Then you let them get on with it and hope for the best.

2bazookas · 04/10/2022 18:11

Your child's worst disadvantage is having a mother who thinks like that.

Crikeyblimey · 04/10/2022 18:19

ThisShipIsSinking · 04/10/2022 16:07

Well what a healthy mindset you have there.
People are governed by fear, this whole forum is fear fuelled. Stay off the news, its toxic, focus on all the things going right, and encourage your kids to live their lives to the best of their ability. l don' t share these fears, life have always been difficult, you just need to be resourceful and build resilience. You can still live a beautiful way of life whilst all hell breaks lose if you have a healthy mindset, its never your circumstances, its how you choose to react to them.

Your post reminds me of one of my mother’s favourite poems (there’s more to not than this but here’s the edited highlight)
Ships sail east and
ships sail west
whilst the self same breezes blow.
It’s the set of the sail,
and not the gale
that sends them where they go.

I hope my boy changes the world for the better, in a big or small way. But if he doesn’t, all I can do is help him have the tools to be a good person.

LuciaPopp · 04/10/2022 18:20

Crikeyblimey · 04/10/2022 18:19

Your post reminds me of one of my mother’s favourite poems (there’s more to not than this but here’s the edited highlight)
Ships sail east and
ships sail west
whilst the self same breezes blow.
It’s the set of the sail,
and not the gale
that sends them where they go.

I hope my boy changes the world for the better, in a big or small way. But if he doesn’t, all I can do is help him have the tools to be a good person.

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I love this.

MsTSwift · 04/10/2022 19:35

Well I just read a book about the dark ages there was one year when the crops failed due to volcano ash blocking out the sun and the bubonic plague hit. In the south west where I live a third of the population died. Life has always been brutal we’ve just had a few post war decades of the easy (ish) life.