What does your 17 yr old do at weekends??

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Mine has just started sixth form A levels - so far spent both weekends whole time in room either sleeping/ gaming etc - mostly in pjs - has dropped clubs they did previously-

I had dropped any restrictions on computer time / bed times etc etc now they at 6th form but am slso seeing them not really creating any positive role model for younger siblings...

Would you reintroduce/ enforce any house rules? Currently only one is phones downstairs over night.

Feels like we in new terrain here

She’s 17. Leave her alone.

Mine has just started 6th form too. She has her phone in her room. Puts herself to bed about 11:30. Gets up at 8:30. She’s fine

Is she chatting to friends online as part of gaming? That to me is socialising and how they got thru lockdown. My ds has just started A levels too. At the weekend he officiates at youth football games, meets friends to watch local team matches or for a bite to eat and plays football himself. There's often a party somewhere too. If he's not got anything planned I like to take him and his siblings for a burger and to the cinema. Our shared interest is movies and we plan things to watch together. Is there anything you both share an interest in?

Mine had a part time job at weekends and did most of her studying during free periods at school.

He dropped football after lockdowns- not really doing anything these past two weekends except glued to computer 😥

They had tried a part time washing up job early summer but say they need to focus on studies now 🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️

It just doesn't seem very healthy but don't want to hassle either

Help!!

Could you go watch a local team together? Cheap tickets and might get him back into sports and to getting out the house?

My dd is 17. She's at work right now (cafe job).

Yesterday, she met a friend for breakfast (former work colleague), then went to a party with her friends last night. She spent the afternoon shopping for another friend's 18th birthday present. Tomorrow, I think she'll probably be revising for exams and she will probably meet up with her boyfriend for a few hours. All of the above is fairly typical!

Mine also dropped clubs pre lockdown, or rather they came to a natural end (one was guides). I don't think as a parent you came make them join clubs as a 17 yo.

She occasionally socialises. Practices driving. Has applied for a couple of Saturday jobs, but no luck so far. The trouble with many pt jobs is that they are often wanting them to do too many hours.

He should have a part time job. I worked 20 hours a week in 6th form, if I can do that he can manage a shift or 2 washing pots!

Get him to get a part time job (all of my 3 worked 12-18 hours a week in 6th form and came out with good grades). Apart from that I’d leave him be with hobbies and interests.

I agree about the p-t job. My DD (17) is working 8hrs/week during term time ( 5-9 one weekday evening and 5-9 Saturdays) at the restaurant she worked at over the summer. She also plays on a sports team and does well at school.

I think the more they have to organize their time, the better they do it, tbh.

Sleeps till noon. Eats. Plays on his PS5 and goes out with his mates to muck around on their bikes or go to the cinema.

It sounds like he needs a job. My ds has also just started 6th form, has rugby on Saturday afternoons, out with mates Saturday evening and usually sees his girlfriend on a Sunday. Spends the weekend mornings in bed and lazing around. He usually works on a Friday night but is between jobs at the moment.

Lazing about
Seeing friends in town
Sometimes a party
Work zeros hours so not always a shift given.

Then homework

My dd is 17 and last year of A'levels. She does not go out at all. She has friends at sixth form but they do not meet up out of school. I think most of her friends are asian and have a lot of family commitments at weekends like family weddings or gatherings. She watches netlix, sometimes studies, spends a lot of time on her phone and that is about it. She does have a part time job but that is done after school on weekdays leaving her weekends free. I am always telling her that at her age I was never in but she says it does not bother her.

Mine sleeps a lot, does a bit of studying, codes, a bit of gaming, baking, goes to the pool and meets a mate for dog walking. No part time job as such, but picks up bits of paid web work.

It’s a big step up from GCSE to A level so I don’t think there’s any harm in a bit of adjustment before nudging towards doing more things with friends / family or part time work.

16yo da lies in bed all day gaming with friends or studying/doing homework. Will get up to eat or play board games with family. 17yo da goes to Musical Theatre group, meets friends for movie etc, comes with me to walk dog, sometimes has a party. They are very different, but neither outside the realms of normal teen behaviour.

DS not DA 🙄

DD did go to a birthday party yesterday after finishing work at 9. She got home around 12, said the party was OK and went to bed.

As others have said, they’ve also got a lot of homework now so they don’t have that much free time.

You take your 17 year olds phone off them overnight?

Mine worked from the age of 16. When she wasn't working she was out with friends.

My DD (17) is at her p/t job at the mo
Her Year 12 is condensed into x2 long days 9-5
She also goes to too many parties and DJ type things

16yo so far spends all weekend online unless nagged to do something else. No luck in encouraging anything else. I can't even get screens out of room at night, though he will engage in other stuff if it's there. I feel at this age I can't do more than suggest- but it's not good.

He needs a part time job McDonald’s or the supermarkets are good for his age group.