Dating 15 year old

[Incognitomum11]

My 16 year old DS has been dating a 15 year old for a week, tonight they came here and he said he wants them to have a sleepover but to not worry they are not having sex.
we’ve obviously talked about consent and legal limits many times.
I went down and talked with both of them and txt her dad (well a number she gave me), I am so worried about anything wrong happening.

I know people will say if they we’re gonna have sex they don’t need a bed and nighttime for that to happen and it’s not sex in itself that worries me it’s the 15 year old but…
I don’t mean to suggest my DS won’t be able to control himself but also this is a first for me and I’m scared.
How did you all navigate this?

I think if I had actually met her more than for a fleeting second prior to tonight I would be calmer…

Yes your right if they want to have sex they will but that doesn't mean you have to allow in your house , she is underage

And accepting a sleepover in your house with someone you haven't really met . Seriously! Sorry your son needs to learn some manners

Good luck with this

I would navigate this by saying a big fat NO and meaning it. I would use the phrase, 'Over my dead body'.

Sit your son down and give him a very stern talking to. Has he a good supply of condoms? Does he know how to use them? Is he under any illusions - has he heard any nonsense from school, etc - about how pregnancy can be avoided?

It would be a no to the sleepover from me as well. 1. She is under the legal age 2. They have been dating for a week so it’s not an established relationship 3. You haven’t met her properly. Think forward and set a precedent. Would it be ok for your son to bring one night stands to ‘sleepover’? If the answer is no then what is a reasonable threshold for you, what do you need to happen before you’re comfortable with someone staying in your home. It’s your home, your rules.

I have teeangers both have boyfriends. My sixteen year old has her boyfriend stay sometimes. They have been dating three years and waited until they were both 16 before staying overnight - they had been dating for two years at that point. My 15 year old is not allowed sleepovers with her boyfriend.

It would be a no from me too, totally inappropriate at their ages.

Big fat no from me too. What is there to discuss with them?

Are you always this irresponsible? Totally unacceptable.

No chance

If they have been dating for a week how much time have they even spent together in total so far? What do her parents think about the idea - is it going to be presented as your idea to them?
Plenty of time for that later (when she is over 16).