Long journey - who sits where?

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Tomorrow I'm taking dd and her boyfriend to visit a university 3+ hours drive away (& back). They're both lovely so I've no issue with that but they expect to sit in the back together where I feel that's treating me like some kind of chauffeur/ member of staff and expect one (don't mind which) to sit up front.
Wibu?

I don't think I could get worked up about this tbh

I would just jet them sit wherever they choose which will probably be in the back together , think it would be a bit odd to insist one of them sits in the front

Let them both sit in the back

Put yourself in their shoes - of course they would want to sit together.

That’s bizarre that you feel that way! That is on you!

Good grief

Very weird for you to feel like that

Ofcourse they want to sit in the back together

If anyone sits in front it should be your daughter. But let them sit together. You are driving them, and 'staff' is another word for parent, right?

I don't blame you at all, in our family it is always the front seat passenger's job to look after the driver ( pass sweets, deal with music/radio, help look out for signs etc). Your DD should go in the front with you and BF in the back.
Although really you are just a chauffeur, they should have the manners not to treat you like one, and make sure you are entertained, fed and watered during the journey, not doing all the work while they canoodle in the back!

My DD always sits in the back with her bf or friends - they want to chat to each other not me.

mine always sit in the back with their respective other halves, so they can stare goo-goo eyed at each other . It doesn’t bother me. Plus, their inane chatter about their mutual friends is kept at a quieter level and doesn’t interfere with my choice of audio.

If they were adults, I'd find it a little bit rude, but teenagers...I wouldn't expect any different (friends or boyfriend) they want to talk to each other not the driver. I'm sorry it bothers you, but it's just the way it is.

Wtf 😂😂

You are the massively unreasonable one in this scenario.

I understand your point, it does make you feel like you are just the chauffeur when they both sit in the back, plus it makes talking difficult. They will probably sleep on the journey back.

Dd usually sits in the back with her BF and I normally don’t mind but we did a 2 hour journey recently and I asked her if she would mind sitting in the front to help navigate/ pass sweets etc and she was happy with that

My kids are 12&14, not bf and gf I know, but like to talk to each other on long journeys, so long as they pass me sweets on demand it’s all good.

What the actual fuck

You are being ridiculous.

in our family it is always the front seat passenger's job to look after the driver ( pass sweets, deal with music/radio, help look out for signs etc).

What a weird thing to need.

Yes and how much of that can't be done from the back?

I mean you are beig their chauffeur for the day though aren't you? I couldn't get worked up.

They just want to sit at the back together to chat and just be together, nothing to do with treating you like staff

Yes and how much of that can't be done from the back?

Change music? The controls are right there, with the driver.

Eat sweets? Not particularly necessary but equally not difficult.

Look for signs? If someone is struggling to look for signs as a driver I would actually question whether they should be driving.

Nobody needs to allocate a job for these things.

I wonder how some posters on here manage if they have to do long journeys on their own

In your situation I’d assume they’d both sit in the back.