Ds out of control

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Hi all, as you may have read previous threads my son who is 14, overdose after arguing with his gf! That was 2 weeks ago. Today he had a fight with his brother and destroyed his room and now won't talk to anyone. His behaviour is just getting worse. He had completely disregard for everyone hit his sister in the process too! I'm at my wits end with him now and really starting to dislike him 😔 he told us all he hated us and wished we all would die

I would contact the safeguarding lead at the school. He is indulging in risky behaviours and potentially could be involved in county lines. This level of explosion suggests anger fuelled by anxiety and fear. There is something behind this. Also the gf needs to be told that sending pics is illegal, having them is illegal and also extremely risky. She is vulnerable too.

As other people have said get social services involved. i found children in need meetings useful as they involve all agencies including school.
He needs help, as do you, and we found social services helpful. Things can turn around when you get to the core of the issue, so stay as strong as you can and get as many professionals involved as you can. This behaviour is often related to a trauma

My son was like this 13-15. He was foul and broke everything and hated everyone. It’s not typical teenage behaviour but unfortunately is surprisingly common amongst teenage boys particularly.

contact school and see what support they can offer, but back off as much as you can. I found the more I tried to fix the problems the worse he behaved. Take a step back but have some boundaries in place.

Hi thanks for replys. He is adamant that he's done nothing wrong, and at the moment I feel as I can't say anything to him . He is just nasty. Ringing school tomorrow. He's been slowly getting worse in his behaviour the last few months and now just constantly shouts. His older sibling hate the way he talks to.me but when they say to him he acts all hard done by and victimise himself and shouts at them too. Since Sat he has been awful really hurtful and nasty..

Really feel for you- hang in there 14 does seem the worst age for some many girls and boys. Hope the school helps.

We have got similar issues with our AS. He has just turned 14 years old, and has a gf of 2 months who is 15 years old, and I think they are getting intimate with each other. This morning i found condoms in his bedroom He has been vaping since he started senior school, and has been getting friendly with older children, who he must be getting the vapes from. He has been getting very agressive no apparent reason, and he threatened to punch me in the face last week, because I mentioned vaping. We have contacted sw and have an appointment for an assessment of need. It is really hard to deal with.

@Springtimeinthegarden this is very similar to my ds girlfriends older too, today he went out shopping with his siblings, and they caught him trying to steal a vape. They made him put it back, and I'm shocked at what he is thinking is ok. He knows right from wrong has been taught its never ok to steal. And now I think this is not his first time, he has done it before and feels no remorse at all.
I'm trying not to shout at him all the time but he makes it so hard. Heis against his siblings saying he hate the older two because they tell him off.
They all used to be so close, and now drifting

Hi has anybody used kooth counselling for kids? My sons gf is on it he told me about it and wondered if any good? He expressed to me how he always feels angry and how everyone annoys him and frustrates him!