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DD19..now what?

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Firstshoes · 02/09/2022 11:11

Dd19 is diagnosed high functioning autistic. Struggled socially her whole life and since primary school has had no real friends. She managed to get through school and college and has decent qualifications. Now she's left education she spends all of her time in her room. She will do things with me but has no motivation to look for work. Every job I've suggested there is a reason why not....I get too tired for that, I don't want to talk to people, the hours aren't right etc. She doesn't want further education even though she did well at college. She says it would be more of the same and she wouldn't make any friends. She spends her life online and gaming. She sleeps a lot. I worry so much as she needs to become more self sufficient. We won't be here forever to look after her. She seems to have no motivation to change although says she wants to. We are paying for her driving lessons but she won't even start learning the theory. Not sure how to help her as every conversation ends in an argument and back in her room she goes!

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Framboisery · 03/09/2022 10:13

Is there any support groups to help her get more independent?
You may get a better response on the special needs section.

Sworntofun · 04/01/2023 21:25

Just seen your message after it was suggested when I posted about my own DD 20. Although my DD has managed to get to uni and after an huge effort passed her driving test every other sentence of your post could have been mine. Your daughter sounds so similar to mine. She is not diagnosed with High Functioning Autism but I have long suspected it. No real suggestions that would help you I’m afraid but I wanted you to know you’re not alone. Take care of yourself

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