Hi
I am a dad to a 14 year old daughter. Ive shared care with her mum for the last ten years but to be honest ive done most of the running around etc for her.
Last christmas my daughter falls out with her mum and she comes to stay with me full time. Its been hard and tiring with working too etc. Her mum has not been very nice to my daughter, didnt send a birthday card or present and done a few things which resulted in her having some breakdowns which Ive supported her through. We have just been on holiday, which was mostly nice.
Her mum has refused to support my daughter financially during this period, meaning I had to put a claim into the CMS.
Out of the blue last weekend her mum wants to take her away for the weekend. I said fine that would be nice but thought it was a bit odd. They go shopping and to the theatre.
Monday comes and my daughter spends a lot of time on her phone to her mum.
On Wednesday I drop my daughter to the bus stop and say goodbye. In the afternoon I get a text from her to say she has gone to live with her mum for a bit. Im pretty much in bits when i read this and try to call her and text her but no answer and her phone location has been switched off.
I just cant believe her mum has planned this behind my back and taken her without some sort of discussion and setting a very bad example, it seems very wrong to me. I know my daughter needs to see her mum but im left stressed out not knowing when im going to see my daughter again.
I tell the school whats happened and phone social work but not much help.
I am really worried for my daughter and what this will do to her and her welfare. She was supposed to attend a class Wednesday evening which she excels in but her Mum never took her. My daughter only told me a few weeks ago that she does not have a mum. Her mum barely cooks for her and last year let my daughter go to her boyfriends at the time when she had covid. ive always worried when she is with her. Pretty chaotic.
Ive provided my daughter with routine and stability over the years. I am worried she is going to be neglected after the novelty / honeymoon period wears off.
I just cant believe someone would plot to do this without having a discussion about this first. It just seems reckless and honestly i feel my daughter has been coerced because of the CMS situation.
My daughter also has a pet at home so she has abandoned her responsibility for this. So i feel it is utterly reckless on her mum's part and given no consideration to anything except herself.
Ive been an emotional wreck for the last few days, and just want my daughter home so we can talk this through, and i miss her so much. I did get some texts from her yesterday which was good to say she was ok.
Any help or advice much appreciated.