17 Yr old and weed

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Hi all. My son is 17 and has been hanging around with an unsavoury friend for a while. It's recently come to my attention this boy is a bad egg with equally bad parents.
He bought weed into my house and now my son seems to be hiding it in his room.

We've had the conversation about drugs and being lead astray but I don't think it's made any difference. My son thinks this kid is cool.

I don't want to ground him and strip away his freedom but on the other hand I do. I want to scream at him and never let him out again.
I'm confused and scared, any advise please.

I'm so scared of marijuana from a mental health point of view, it can be so dangerous, I would be losing it too xx

No advice going through similar. It doesn't matter if you scream or shout they will do it regardless. I'm hoping it's just a phase. I stopped all money but then he stole 😔

i started smoking at 11 but only stopped at 17 because i found harder drugs (charlie, k and jemima). it felt so cool and calming i thought i was snoopp doggy dog. however, now i am 20 years clean and could not be happier. despite my young actions i will not be letting ds or dd near drugs (especially not jemima, i don't remember the years of my life spent on jemima) xx hope ur ok

So your son is happy for young black men to be stabbed and a 9 year old in Liverpool to be shot dead? Blunt yes, but that is the reality of drugs, which are not going to be legalised.

@balalake You are in denial if you believe youths are being stabbed to death due to weed. It's so much more than that. Half the time there isn't a reason other than someone felt disrespected.
If drugs are being fought over it'll be crack and heroin not cannabis. Come on you should know better than this.

Truth

Thing is, there is so much on social media about how harmless weed is.
Of course, we know better, but that's what they are seeing.
It can be scary having teens!

I have a zero tolerance policy on drugs. If they are over 16 and have them under my roof they are kicked out.

Would you really though? It's easy to say unless you are in this situation.

Also very strict approach here, I've seen the laid back approach with my friends kids... allowing the odd joint on the weekend... laughing when they smell of it and jokingly saying it's not to become a habit... then being the cool mum and allowing them to have friends smoke in the garden.

Suddenly it's out of control they are coming home stoned most nights and you are now providing money for this because 'it was fine before'

Trust me the line is a dot before you even know how you ended up condoning this behaviour and it's Damon hard to start paying by down the advice and rules after this

I’d advise doing everything you possibly can to get your son away from this friend. My younger brother was exactly like this and he’s now got chronic mental health problems in his early 30s and really it’s destroyed a normal life for him. My parents fought tooth and nail but couldn’t get him to the straight & narrow. It’s still an issue in our family 15 years on. To be honest if you have to move I wouldn’t say it was an overreaction. Do whatever you can to stop this now because it will escalate x