Asking a query for my DH about DSS, as I don't have kids of my own and its a long time since my own teenage years!
DSS is 17 - he's been no trouble to anyone, ie no teenage rebellion (so far). DH is worrying about him because he's coasting at school and underperforming in exams, and doesn't seem to know what he wants to do when he leaves school - his grades aren't good enough to go to Uni even though he's clever enough and has expressed his intent in the past. He doesn't seem to grasp that pretty soon he's going to need to go out into the world and stand on his own two feet. He's a great kid but lives in his own bubble. He's incurious about the world around him, doesn't have any interests other than gaming and seems very passive about life choices in general. This is nothing new, he's always been like this but we'd kind of assumed he'd start wising up by now.
Basically - is this still normal at 17, or is there anything we can be doing to light a fire under his arse encourage him along? He gets levered out of bed by 11.30am during weekends and holidays, even if all he does then is sit on the sofa and play youtube videos. We get him to cook basic dishes for tea every now and again, DH does the blunt "shower and wear deodorant for the sake of everyone in the house" talks. Over the years we've been encouraging when he's shown the start of an interest (eg scouting) but they've all faded away fairly fast. There's been nothing new for years now.