Son talking to me like dirt

[Felic23]

Hi everyone, please tell me how to handle this behaviour as I'm a single parent and really struggling.

My 13 year old Son is on and off speaking to me like shit. Simply asking him to do things or even trying to help him and I get ' why do you care', ' your so annoying' which I can handle but it's gone on to 'shut up'for barely any reason.

The worst is mocking me which is new, so I said today you're upsetting, leave me alone and he responds ' aww your upset'

I am massively hormonal right now as have really bad pms and he knows that and blames me for his behaviour saying I've been really annoying and I don't realise what I'm being like.

I have taken his pc out of his room after behaviour today, its hard as he's so stubborn and says he's not rude ect I dont know how to get past the behaviour and how to make him understand he can't talk to me like this.

Sending sympathy OP. My 14 year old is also being quite rude and hurtful at the moment and not showing any understanding of my pov or any responsibility or remorse for her own behaviour.
I try so hard to make her happy and facilitate all the things she wants to do, just to be met with bratty attitude if I say no to something that I don't think is appropriate or safe!
If I had an ex husband to send her to, I'd be tempted right now!

This is what worked with my son.

@ImAvingOops it's so hard isn't it. I also try my best to give my Son good experiences and fun times. I think when it's just the two of you everything is magnified and more stressful as the support from another parent would really help ( my Sons Dad is useless)
I have been looking online for advice and trying to get understand the teenage brain more as my Son is not only behaving terribly at times he also seems to be acting like a toddler which is not like him at all. Sympathy to you also, stay strong.

My 14 year old DS is also horribly rude. I ask him how he is and he snaps at me, refuses to spend any time with me, shouts at me when I try to get him up for school and has never told me to f**k off! I agree with the advice above, i.e. immediately pull them up on it (it is NOT ok and he needs to be respectful) but try not to get overly emotional about it or take it too personally. There are days when my DS genuinely seems to hate me and I wonder what on earth I did wrong but then I realise it's not really about me, his mind and thoughts are elsewhere.

I raised 6 teenagers and tried all manner of things. Some tactics worked with some of them and some didn't. I found that taking things away only worked so far and then it would be all out war (also I ran out of stuff to take). One thing I did find helpful was a warning. If they were backchatting or trying to hurt for example I would give them one warning, 'one more word and the wi-fi is gone'. It's then their choice to carry on or not. It didn't work at first but once they knew I was serious and consistent about consequences they most often thought about it and did a stroppy walk to their room.