DD, 14, has told me she hates me, more than once, usually when I discipline her and remove her mobile phone. She also told me to 'go and throw myself off a cliff' during the same interaction.
After a few minutes when her anger leaves her, she cries and apologises and I have accepted and told her what an unacceptable thing it is to say. For background, her DF and I split up three years ago and he moved several hours away last year with his new girlfriend so I do feel there's something in this about seeing how much she can push me before I withdraw my love. Her DF used to shout at me a lot too so I wonder if she has learnt it there.
So I just wondered how common this was? It isn't nice, obviously, but I know she doesn't actually mean it.