15 Year old DS addicted to weed 😥

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My once very lovely and sweet DS has been smoking weed on an off for 2 years. We have tried cutting off all money, talking, shouting etc but we are at a position now where he is smoking it all day and seems dead-eyed and emotionless. He escapes from the house through windows etc if i try and lock him in, he goes missing for days, he literally doesn't care if i cry my eyes out and beg him to stop. He is rude, swears at me, laughs at me, steals any money and small items of jewellery he can find etc. And now i have found out he is dealing weed having bought some on tick in bulk.

I'm literally about to call the police and / or social services. He is destroying his own life and that of his wider family. I absolutely don;t know what to do next.

Has anyone ever been through anything similar?

It’s so difficult but try and be positive. We had the same problem with DS 17. He smoked it on and off between 12 - 16, at one point he was smoking everyday.

he was also a school refuser and I believe he had a lot of traits for ADHD although was never diagnosed as he refused any kind of help or intervention. He had terrible anger issues and I thought it was because of all the weed he smoked. However, he told me he smoked because he feels so angry and it helped calm him down.

There was literally nothing we could do, it was beyond our control. He too would escape out of the window, having no money didn’t phase him, his mates just shared their weed.

Things started to get better at 16 when he was no longer required to attend school. He still smoked it but his anger dissipated. He smoked it less and less. He recently turned 17, has a job and yesterday filled all his smoking paraphernalia into a carrier bag and told me to throw it out. All his tobacco, grinders, rolling papers etc. I think this was prompted by the fact I told him there was no way I would help finance his driving lessons if he was smoking!

hang in there, things can and will change. Please don’t call SS or the police as this will make matters worse (unless there is a threat to his or your physical well being)

I have seen this with close family. Could you afford private rehab ? Drug specialist counselling ?

I'm sorry OP drug addiction is awful . But people do change their lives. I had a friend whi was addicted to heroin and living on the streets who eventually made it through rehab (after a few attempts ) and is a totally different person now. A mum in the suburbs very happy and calm.

Having an amount on tick to sell could be very problematic. If he fucks up with cash for the lay on of weed the person above who supplies your son may lean on your sons dealer and it could get messy very quickly.

You should call the police and SSD but mainly because he could well be involved in being exploited or exploitation, there should be local resources which can support him to look at his peer network, any gang affiliations, any debt he is building up etc etc

Please call the police if you have not already done so. Reasons above.