Really struggling

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I'm really struggling with my 14 year old. I don't know what to do, it's like she hates me. Nothing I do is right, I'm an embarrassment (I went to look at menus at different outdoor eating places). She cried last week because she had no clothes, took her shopping and she mocked everything.

I haven't helped things but saying I know you hate me and then bursting into tears, all the sniping at me has just become too much. Don't know a way to make it right

See if they do a take 3 course in your area. Really helped me understand them better.
Is it all month or just before her period starts?
My DD has her moments all month but is worse around her period. We keep disagreeing as she likes her belly button hanging out all the time! She's mostly helpful tho.
Its hard, the course made me feel that I wasnt alone. We made a whatsapp group and meet up monthly after it finished. Things will get better, its just a phase

My dd is hard work she acts like she hates me then yesterday was following me around the house as she wanted something.

It's perfectly normal but hard on us mums.

Natures way. Those that seem to have it easier are either lying or lucky.

Thank you both. She didn't eat lunch at all and we just left her in her room but she was obviously hungry at tea time so came through and we all watched a film together.

@whenwillthemadnessend I have been very lucky with my eldest, she has had her moments but nothing major at all and as soon as she thinks she's overstepped the mark she comes and apologises. Their personalities are so different (and I do know it is just luck with my 16 year old and could well come and bite me on the bum at some point in the future!)

I have a 14 ds as well and he has just started really. Girls are so driven by hormones though so the week up to P day is hard work. Otherwise she is generally ok with the odd stroppy moment. But the week before it's like a dementor has descended on the house.

She's only had 2 periods but I think the hormones are definitely not helping

It's really hard but you have to let a lot of it wash all over you. Have a line where you pull her up but just try and ignore the lesser snipes. Funnily enough the MN line of 'are you meaning to be so rude?' sometimes helps! Leave her alone when she wants to be left alone, she definitely doesn't hate you.