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Teenagers

Parenting teenagers has its ups and downs. Get advice from Mumsnetters here.

How to deal with them!!!

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Heavenlyharry01 · 14/07/2022 09:58

My 12 year old son is lovely….some of the time. Although 80% of the time he’s argumentative, sulky, stroppy and annoyed!
We argued again this morning over how he talks to his sisters. He never takes any responsibility and even though his sister is just 6, he expects her to act like him and everything she does annoys him.
when he does something wrong and we address it, he’s overly dramatic and shouts and screams how he hasn’t done anything wrong. Tells to me go away, shut up etc. Talks over me and then only wants to talk about he’s feelings and how it’s affected him.
a few hours later he will apologise and then the next day we are back at square one.
I find he only wants to be on a device, and when he’s not attached to a screen he doesn’t know what to do with himself.
we take away screens as a punishment and then he only wants to know how he can get them back.
He never wants to helps with anything around the house, walk the dogs, help with chores or his sisters.
Hes doing well at school, has friends etc.

Ive tried various techniques on dealing with him. Chats when it’s calmed down, gentle parenting techniques, punishment, praise, reward, consequences.

is this normal?

OP posts:
DisplayPurposesOnly · 14/07/2022 10:08

we take away screens as a punishment and then he only wants to know how he can get them back.
He never wants to helps with anything around the house, walk the dogs, help with chores or his sisters.

How about screen time as a reward? The default is no screen time but he can earn it by doing chores. You could have a tariff (and a maximum). Eg, 15 mins for walking dogs, one hour for all homework done. Up to 2hrs max on school night, 4hrs at weekend.

DisplayPurposesOnly · 14/07/2022 10:10

And deduct time for transgressions or arguments for doing the chore that's supposed to earn screen time.

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