Do your teens come on holiday/days out?

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What age do teens stop doing this? Could you get your 21 and 18 year old to go on multiple holidays/days out, walking, cycling and watersports?

Yes.
The only way our older kids stopped coming was when we stopped inviting them! Luckily all of ours have enjoyed family activities.

No, not at that age, unless they already enjoyed it. But then no one could get me out cycling because I don’t like it so at 18-21 I think they are old enough to make up their own minds.
DS is 19 and tags along if he thinks he will enjoy it, but other stuff he does his own thing. He’s an adult with his own interests.

I’m on holiday now with my 18 year old, we have another 2 trips away this summer, plus tickets for several sessions at the Commonwealth Games.
He will come to the theatre and other events with me.
We still have a lot of shared interests, I don’t try and drag him along to things I know he will be bored by

As soon as I turned 16 I was no longer invited on family holiday/day trips :(

I always extend the invite to my eldest (19) She seems to always say yes to the main holidays. Short weekends away to see family etc 50/50 she may drive herself down and stay half the time but she definitely doesn’t come very much at all. We always extend the invite it’s up to her whether she comes or not.

We have been away on our own but always invite our adult DC’s to come if we are going somewhere we think would be nice as a family holiday. We are all going to France in a few weeks. We all enjoy each other’s company and it’s nice to share the fun stuff.

Me and DH went on a cruise a couple of years back and there were a lot of large family groups, we both agreed that next time we would like to do the same,

Our DS’ are 21 & 19, a holiday yes, because we pay 😂we also have holidays just the two of us, but we love going with the boys because they are lovely to spend time with, a day trip no way, they are just not interested at all.

My DC are this kind of age and it varies. I have tickets to some Commonwealth Games sessions with them as they enjoy the sports.

dd then 19 came on a uk beach/countryside holiday with us, her bf came too. ds2 (17) refused tho, but if I was going skiing and asked him he would love to come (the other two not so much).

I think it’s up to them at this age. If they think they would enjoy it and you are happy to pay (my younger two are students so no spare £££) then that’s great.

Depends ... even my DH and I can barely agree on a day out yet alone a holiday together! DH and DS (21) are more likely to go away together for a golf break or similar .. to be honest after years of compromising I am the one who prefers to do my own thing .

Holidays, days out and water sports yes.

Planning a holiday next year with my 20 yr old DS. Took him and his cousins (23 and 24) on holiday earlier this year. We do loads of stuff together.

Days out...no. holidays...yes. dd is only 14 but sge'd rather hang oit with hrr friends than come to the beach with me.

I agree with PP’s that it’s up to them at that age. Mine are slightly younger (17 and nearly 14) and often don’t want to come on days out, e.g. DH and I went to an art exhibition last weekend and neither of them wanted to come. But, we had a lovely three-day break as a family recently, took the bikes and canoe so lots of outdoor activities. They did cycle off together on a couple of afternoons though, and we all met up later for a meal.

DD wants to go holiday with her friends next year when they’re all 18 so she may not be interested in a family holiday as well. It’ll depend where we go!

I would have loved to go cycling and doing watersports with my parents when I was a teen! Instead days out or holidays involved wandering around small towns (just kind of 'admiring' them, not actually shopping or anything!) and National Trust gardens. I just wanted to cry with boredom.

@PestoPasghetti Mine were very keen on National Trust sites as well! My Mum had developed health problems though so that was all she could manage by the time I was a teen.

I didn’t much like it back then, but I have to say that I appreciate it more now, they were somewhat interesting!

Yes, just got back from Cyprus with my two sons 17 and 21. Each of us paid for ourselves, and it went really well, l have always been a very fit , active parent, l love the outdoors, it was our first holiday for many years as couldn't afford one before.

Yes, they do - 18 year old, 16 year old and 15 year old - making the most of it while it lasts actually. At some point, I am sure it will stop sadly

It depends what...they've all come on things like boating on the Broads, one came on a city break abroad with us , 2 of them came to a villa in France.
As for outings, walks in nearby woods etc, yes sometimes, days out to things like airshows yes, shopping and museums mostly not, cinema yes, theatre occasionally. All in their 20's now.

Depends what it is at 18 & 20!
haven't had a proper holiday w them for 3 years, but that’s more due to Covid.
They'd come on a day trip if it appealed and would def come on holiday on the same basis. Not sure we’ll get away his summer though for various reasons. Dh and I going away in the autumn ourselves though.

@JustDanceAddict Ohh, lovely, DH and I were talking earlier about going away in Sept/Oct when ours are slightly older, avoid the heat and some of the crowds. Bliss!

We've always invited my stepsons on the main holiday and their partners too when they got serious girlfriends. Last one was when the oldest was about 27!

19 and 23 year old will pretty much come anywhere they are invited 😂 We all get on well, always have. DH and I do go away a lot by ourselves though now DD has left school. We have just booked a holiday in Bali in November for the four of us which everyone is really looking forward to. Sometimes we will invite DD’s boyfriend along but not always, if DS had a boy/girlfriend they would get similar invites.

Sixth formers come for holidays- days out, sometimes. It depends on what is on offer! Trips to see to family they still come with us as it is only grandparents and we live a few hours from all of them. I stopped going on holiday with my parents once I went to university and left home.

Yes to both! But they are students and it would have to be paid for by us!

I'm no to holidays - we are in different worlds - live in opposite time zones - they are nocturnal and I'm done with compromising, I'm done with being the unpaid help picking up after them (I don't like hotels - so this isn't an option) - I enjoy spending time with dh and the dog on holidays, that's relaxing. A day/night out with the kids is really good fun - a holiday is hard work, that might change in the future but they at the moment are not invited..

They wouldn't be keen on walking or cycling but watersports would be a win I think. They come out for meals and cinema with us and did want to join our holiday this year but we couldn't find a date that suited everyone (DDs, 21).