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Self harming

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soozm127 · 30/06/2022 05:39

So last night, I found my eldest son (15) sobbing in his room after an argument with his friend. Once I calmed him down, he revealed to me that he has been cutting himself.
He has been unhappy and angry for a very long while, which I had sought counselling for via his school. I've now promised to find someone more specialised with more time to devote to his issues rather than the overworked school counsellor.
My problem is he has begged me not to tell my ex husband. He has revealed several distressing conversations he's had with his dad and his new girlfriend. Part of me doesn't want to betray his trust, but part of me wants my ex to know exactly what his behaviour has pushed our son to. It's not the first time this man has pushed someone to the brink.

I don't know what to do for the best. Although the best for me is seeking the help that my son needs. I don't want to be accused of concealing anything. Absolutely scared for my child I cannot bear to see him in this distress.

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PritiPatelsMaker · 30/06/2022 08:34

That is so tough but right now I think I'd do as your DS asks. Does he still want to see his DF or would a small break be helpful?

Sadly if his DF is a bully, telling him what affect he's had is unlikely to alter his behaviour unless he's always been really good at taking criticism and changing? I'm guessing as he's an ex this is unlikely.

Helping Teens Who Cut might be helpful and there's a Workbook for Teens Who Self Harm.

I hope he gets the support he needs Flowers

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