TRIGGER WARNING! my dd friend telling stories or is there truth to this? Do I call police?

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My dd is 13 and in high school, her friend is also 13. I’m pregnant and my dd took a very big interest in this which is great; she said her friend from school is also very interested as she’s an only child and never experienced this before. Iv only met her friend once, the school they attend is out of my area dd has to get a train there, this girl lives in the area of the school. On Monday my dd told me can I tell you a secret….. assuming she had kissed a boy or something so she comes out with this…. Her friend has been raped and is pregnant! Omg I say!! Has she told her mum?? Are the police involved??? He’s her mum knows and police are involved looking for this man he’s 25, I begin to think how awful this is for this poor child and how ever did this happen? She was texting him on an app and arranged to meet him and he took her somewhere quiet and taped her, this is dreadful I say and so scary and this poor girl must be going through hell!!! But then she says this only happened on Saturday…. Saturday just gone I ask?? Yeah… but that was two days ago… yeah I know she said and she’s pregnant she’s took a test and she’s being sick all of the time…. So I think to myself at this point ok she must have slept with someone before this to be pregnant because you can’t know at two days that your pregnant…. So I’m assuming this girl had a boyfriend some time ago and then got raped on the weekend. So then Tuesday my dd comes home and says her friend is off to meet the rapist because he’s her boyfriend now! I said what no omg does her mum know where she’s going?? We have to call her mum right away!! No she said her mums fine with it. I’m absolutely certain there is no way her mum would be fine with it. So I ask didn’t the police catch him? Nah they don’t know who he is they are going off a name he made up on the app. I said but why is your friend wanting to meet him. She said she’s scared of him.

so do I call the police and tell them what I know? Which what do I even know? My 13yo dd telling me crazy stories which may well have no truth to it at all. Do I ask for this girls mums number and pretend I’m arranging a party for dd so I can get her number then speak to her and see what’s going on!! Im so confused this this could all go seriously wrong if I don’t do anything at all

Could you contact the school? It’s a potential safeguarding issue. Their DSL should be able to refer accordingly.

Report to the safeguarding teacher at the school. They will deal with it. Probably teenage girl tall tales but you can't be too careful.

Mmm my first port of call would be the school, let them know who your DD friend is and what they have said.

I would contact the school to raise the concern as they can link with the girls parents.
I wouldn’t worry about whether it is truthful or not. Just pass Along the info and others can deal with it accordingly.

Agree. Call safeguarding at school. Probably just a kid making up a load of rubbish to brag for attention (hopefully) but she needs to know you can't do this.

I'd be telling DD to steer clear of her though - doesn't sound like a good influence in the slightest!

How confusing for you.
As you say, you can't know after two days, but also if someone raped a 13 year old it's an extremely serious matter.
I'd talk to the girl's mum, and talk to the girl properly too before doing anything dramatic like calling the police.
If it turns out to be true don't hesitate to call the police.

You need to tell school and let authority deal with this. Hopefully it's misguided silliness and no assault happened but the girls need the ramifications explained.

I’d report it to the school. We had a weird thing where DS’s friend told us his parents had gone abroad and left him and his brother home alone. They were 9 and 13. I still have no idea what the truth was but the school were very grateful I reported it and dealt with it. But it was similar in that the story kept changing and I wasn’t sure what the truth was, but on reflection I think it was probably true.

Contact the school.
To DD, explain the biological reasons why her frind's story is full of holes, say you don't know the reason F says these things but you must insist DD distances herself from a high risk situation (contact with a 25 yr old male who seeks sex with children) .

If GF is an attentionseeking little madam who has called wolf with a fairy tale, there's a lesson in it for both girls.

Report to the Designated Safeguarding Lead at school - you can probably Google DSL and your school to get the name directly.
Don't go to the parents, as it sounds like you don't know them. I wouldn't go to the police, yet.
Agree with those posters above saying you need a seriousvonversation with your daughter about the holes in the story, and the possible influences this child could have on your child.

Agree report to school and let them deal. Anecdotally we’ve had several quite troubled teen girls ex friends of Dd also 13 telling the most outrageous lies they dont fully appreciate the power of their accusations. On the other hand if it’s true it needs professional involvement.

I’m an ex teacher.

YY to reporting to the schools safe guarding lead. Don’t wait. Either it’s true it she made it up but either way she needs help. In future never promise to keep a secret.

I kinda feel like she's making it all up. But we don't know, it's best to email into school what's been said. It's a safe guarding issue and could be some element of truth in it. Even if it's not true, it might make her stop making up stories?

I think I'd talk to school. There's a strong possibility none of it is true, but if there is even a grain of truth the girl is being groomed/exploited. If it's not true the girl probably still needs some help.

Then you need to talk properly to your DD about what she'd do if she found herself in similar circumstances. It's great that she's talked to you .

I wouldn't contact the parents. You don't know how they'll react and could turn nasty. Definitely contact the school.

I had a bestfriend like this she still talks crap now 18 or so years on.

Agree with everyone else, contact school ASAP and use the words 'urgent safeguarding issue' in your email header or phone message. That will get their attention.

Thank you everyone I never thought of going to the school about it my silly pregnancy brain, yes I agree either it’s true or not but this girl needs some help what ever is going on I’m emailing them as soon as I get home from DS football training

This is so worrying, but as others have said, I would go straight to the school safeguarding lead, let them deal with it, they will involve any necessary agencies.
I wouldn’t contact the mother either, just leave it to the school.
I was in similar circumstances recently with teenage DD’s friend, making claims of drug taking and selling sex, the details never quite added up and it all turned out to be untrue thankfully, (there was lots of other stuff going on with this girl though). In your case if there’s any truth in what she’s saying the appropriate agencies will be involved to provide support.
Best left to the experts. Once you’ve reported it to the school you can reassure your daughter that her friend will be supported no matter what the outcome.