How to stop teenager being soooo slow

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I have a teen who is just soo slow to do anything. You ask her to do something and no joke it can take an hour on a good day. She is late to almost everything as she leaves everything to the last minute.

Come sept education wise she is going further afield (at least an hour travel and 2 busses) her choice. and she is often late to school which is less than a 10 minute walk!

I am getting so frustrated as it feels like we are constantly waiting for her even though she's told in advance what we are doing, just has no forethought to get prepared and sorted and no 'get up and go'.

Her dad is very much unorganised and unprepared which I feel she has inherited. I am the total opposite which makes things worse.

I am all for letting her learn the hard way, but I also don't want to just 'let it go' as it's such an essential life skill. She needs to get a job soon, and wants to; and I just keep thinking if she takes this attitude into a work place she won't last 5 minutes!

Interesting that her dad is the same, how does he manage at work? Has there been any consequences from the school for her lateness? Apart from the lateness is she ok in other respects or does she forget stuff/struggle with friendships/self care?? Sorry for questions, just trying to get a picture.

Lots of people struggle with executive functional skills sometimes associated with ADHD but not always. How is her processing speed? If you give her instructions does she follow them easily or if it's a multistep one does she forget parts of it?

Don't wait for her. Go at the appropriate time. Or if you're taking her somewhere, tell her when she finally shows up that you have moved on to the next item on your list of things to do that day.

Let her experience the adult consequences of not getting your adult shit together.

Has she always been this way?

Or did she learn time management techniques as a child and this is hormones kicking in and ruining all your hard work? 😊

I think my approach would differ depending on whether it was normal for her or something new.

It's not normal she hasn't always been like this, I'd say teenage times but also her phone which I feel has just fried her brain!

Her dad manages at work by being in the same job for such a long time that it's repetitive, he works mostly alone so it doesn't matter so much. He kind of manages somehow for work, but in life is always last minute and unorganised too.

I think I am going to have to be more harsh and just say, 5 minutes and we're gone, that's it. But I think I struggle more with stuff I ask her to do and she doesn't. For example get up and have breakfast. When it's already lateish and she's had a lie in, can take her 1-2 hours before she appears to eat. Everything just seems on a delay, it's so frustrating

Processing speed is generally fine, I honestly think having her phone has stopped her brain being switched on sometimes though! Defintiely not ADHD or any other SEN.

Lateness to school she's had some late marks and detentions but it's not sufficiently bad enough for much more. And now she's finished anwyay