Leaving 14-year old overnight

[herhm]

Would you leave a 14-year old overnight on their own at home?
My ds doesn't want to come with us. He is sensible and basically plugged into his ps4 pretty much permanently anyway. But is it too young to leave him from Saturday at about 1pm until Sunday morning about 10am?

I would leave my very sensible 14 year old dd if I wasn’t too far and we could be in contact with FaceTime and she was happy. Also good friends with neighbours if she had a problem.

But I live in a safe town.

He could get married and live independently but you won't leave him alone overnight??

a 14 year old is a teenager. Why shouldn't they be left alone overnight if they are ready for it and happy to do so? What do you think will happen?

I am completely torn. Part of me thinks he is almost 15, rarely ventures out of his room anyway and would be happy to be left as long as he had access to food. The other part thinks it is just too young. I was left at his age on my own but that doesn't mean it's right. But... I survived!

My DD is 14 and I wouldn't leave her overnight.She is responsible and I trust her completely but for me it's too young.

No it’s too young

I wouldn't. We first did this with DS at 16 and that felt about right (similarly sensible).

I had to leave my 15yo DS alone at night. He turned 15 in the November and we went into lockdown in the march. I had to work nights and my parents refused to look after him anymore because covid.
He has autism but high functioning and he was fine. I had a petcam in the living room that I used to access remotely to check for noises/fires etc throughout the night because I was paranoid about something going wrong and he has a mobile phone. He was fine.

His goes to a special school and had a social worker due to his mental health at the time and they were both OK with it as it was an unavoidable situation. They only caveat from the social worker was that if anything went wrong I would potentially be prosecuted for neglect.

It depends on your child and on the situation. If your going on a jolly and haven't got childcare I'd say it's too young. If you need to be out overnight for work or something essential then I get why you would do it.

How far away will you, or another available adult, be if a situation arises that means you need to return to him? If someone is able to get to him in 15 minutes or so, and if you know he is mature and responsible I would do it.
When these dilemmas arise, I always consider that I would have reacted exactly the same in a crisis at 14 as I would have at 18 when I was deemed an adult.

If he is comfortable being left, you can trust he won't have people over, he is sensible and there are family or friends nearby he could contact if needed then i would be seriously considering it.

Yes, without a second thought. The UK is so odd about this.

No I wouldn't. I've left my 14 year old home alone all day but it's too early to leave him overnight.

Yes I would. Why not?

Unless you had a particular concern with your specific child or they didn't want to, I wouldn't hesitate. Normal safety and emergency planning.

Thank you for the comments. I feel he is mature enough to be able to do it and I know he would love for me to trust him enough. That said I'd be terrified of something happening so I've arranged for my mum to stay with him. Maybe in 6 months I will leave him. He'll be over 15 by then.