DD13’s Behaviour

[SunshineLollipopsAndRainbows]

DD is really pushing the boundaries at the mo. She announced yesterday “ The more you take stuff off me, the worse my behaviour will get”. We haven’t taken anything off her for ages, trying to deal with things differently, but lately we don’t know what else to do. She’s without her pocket money this weekend & I have changed my mind about paying for a cinema trip. Does anyone else get threatened like this?

Anyone out there??

I've had this. Don't give in. They are sods at this age. My sympathies.

We've had loads of boundary pushing with ds2 in the last few months. All school mums say their ds's are the same. Hold firm, don't waver. Ask her, what do you suggest I should do in the duration? In a devils advocate kind of way?

in this duration situation.

Echoing what others said . Eventually they realise what they do doesn't work but it's a hard road .

My dd has used extreme behaviour that resulted in her staying out overnight . I did what I said I would and called the police 3 weeks ago she has been v subdued since .

She sent me a saying months ago saying

"The strictest mothers have the naughtiest daughters " 🙁

I sent one back saying

"The naughtiest daughters have the strictest mothers " 🤣

I hope it doesn't get to this for you but social workers , police and school backing up my actions to my dd have really helped .

Good luck , stay firm but also try to find good times when you can say you still you love her .

Commiserations, it really is a rotten age. Don't waiver.. but bear in mind punishment engenders resentment. Natural consequences are powerful at this age..