New drivers rules.

[DogsandBoysmeanMud]

My 17yo son just passed his test. What house rules do you have? For them as drivers or teens as passengers??

What do you mean? Why would there be rules? My DD passed her test last year and my other DD is learning now. There are no rules.

Has he got his own car or borrowing yours to drive?

Friends of mine would have rules about driving at night / no passengers / black box and all 3 kids had no issues with driving and all very safe in their 20s & 30s. Obviously the rules were relaxed gradually as they got more experienced.
Also, contributing to cost of petrol if using a parent's car.

My 18 year old dd is due to take her driving test next week. She will be driving my car if she passes. I have been taking her out to practice in the car in between lessons, so I know she is familiar with the controls and drives confidently under instruction. However, I have already said no to her carrying any passengers (other than family) for at least the first month after passing her test until she gains more experience and confidence driving by herself. She is easily distracted and I want her to focus on driving some familiar routes, in daylight hours. My car, so my rules!

Oh, I see. We don’t have a car, so the DDs won’t be driving anywhere unless they get their own cars -which isn’t likely. You need to be 23 to hire a car near us, so there will be a while to wait before they can drive at all.

Rules? I didn't make up any extra rules, once DD passed her test she bought a car and used it.

Are they using your car or their own?

We had black boxes installed (which were not needed for insurance) the reason being it made it easy for the drivers to say no to the friends when they were egging them on.
Saying 'I'd love to race that car but if I do I won't be able to drive next week' just made it easier to say no.

(Before I get jumped on, yes they should feel comfortable saying no especially if they are driving, but they are teens and it is hard. Blaming something else is easy)

My rules with ds were no friends in the car for the 1st month and also he had to use P plates for 8 weeks and phone when he had arrived at his destination.

Dd is due to sit her test soon.

I think this is a really good approach actually. DD only used her car for work or to go out with her boyfriend but if they are having friends in their car I agree having a BB is a good 'get out'. I do similar if mine ever want to get out of a situation they can just text me a blank text and I will call them and say I want them home and arrange to collect. That way they don't lose face and I get them home safe.

That's really helpful. Thank you.

He is driving the car we have bought for him and his brother who is also learning.

Just wondering what people say about carrying friends?
P plates?
Who pays for petrol?
Driving at night.

He obvs has passed, but having just passed he feels like he has found complete freedom to go where he wants and when.

He's sensible and well behaved but I don't know his mates as well.

Just trying to get a variety of views.