I’ll keep this as brief as I can.
Teenage daughter has been in with a crowd of kids who I really dislike. They all have problems mental health, gender identity, body image, eating disorders, self harm etc. Since DD fell in with them she’s been making herself sick and she’s been self harming (which admittedly she had done a few years previously on one occasion). She’s now recently come out as queer.
I know a lot of kids go through these phases but DD is very naive and VERY easily influenced.
She told me she started seeing the school counsellor. I’ve had nothing from the school about this because of the confidentiality.
This is a fee paying school. Her grades are slipping.
I’m really not sure what to do. We decided to remove her from state school as a few years ago as we wanted to give her the best opportunity we could. In her previous school it was Tony and the year group was small. Unfortunately she was under the influence of some pretty vile kids and this is when the self harming started (they were all into it too, she was bullied they called her fat etc etc). We got on top of things when she left and all was fine.
She seems to attract people who are bad news. She always wants to “fix” people, she allows herself to be bullied and manipulated and it in turn reflects in her own behaviour at home.
Now I know she’s been going to the councillor for about 6 weeks I’m not sure whether to intervene or not. But I’m mightily pissed off that I seem to have no say or involvement in what’s happening!
it all seems a bit complicated and I really don’t know what to do.