Hi mums I really really need help. I don't know how to cope with things at the moment. DD, 13, has gone through some really bad times over the past few years with friendships, bullying etc. We have reached a point where she confides in me now and asks for my help and advice but I am really struggling emotionally to take alot of it on board. I don't want to let her think this and then she not tell me anything or withdraw again, but how as mum do you know when to step in, when to step back, how much advice to give etc. I am really struggling with the concept of allowing her to make her own mistakes (when I can see her quite clearly walking straight into one) with balancing that with offering advice and guidance and then on top of that am carrying all she is telling me on a daily basis and I feel so much hurt for her it breaks my heart and is having a massive detrimental impact on my own mental health...but then I feel bad to even think I count when she needs help. I need some ways of finding a balance to be there to listen and guide but not allow it to all consume me as a person too....feel like I am failing her, and me, time and time again.