My highly strung 14yo DD has pleasant and respectful BF, nearly15. Spoken to his mum (secretly) and agreed that whilst we’re not thrilled with teenage relationships at this age, we can try to manage our DC a little in the hope that it will fizzle out very soon.
4 mths in - a few dates, bowling, cinema etc and now I’m under relentless pressure from her to be allowed to go to his house/vice versa. I have said no so far.
Had all the talks, so have they, they don’t want to have sex at this stage (hmmm, till the hormones kick in) and have agreed that she will a) tell me and b)let me help her to arrange contraception when she is old enough/mature enough to have this type of relationship.
What now? I know full well if I say ok he can come for dinner and you can watch movie downstairs etc but ONLY if we’re in and upstairs is ABSOLUTELY out of bounds, she will scream the house down and is fully capable of crying for days on end about this. This is a battle I need to pick, surely? She’s 14! She’s just soooo highly strung and I’ve been dreading facing this one. We have so far maintained reasonable mental health but I don’t want her to be miserable because we won’t allow her the same freedoms that some people have, but inside I’m screaming no way to houses! How would you manage this? PS yes we did say early on she shouldn’t be thinking about a BF just yet until she was older but of course she went and got one anyway…I’m hoping there are some wise experienced parents out there to help me!!!