Is there anyone who doesn't like their own child?
One of my kids is a nightmare. She is demanding, getting physical, and she feels entitled to everything. But she is like that just at home, at school she is quiet, has no friends.
I tried so hard to fix our relationship and help, but nothing worked. mental health said they wouldn't interfere until she attacks her siblings. I don't really want to involve the police as my older one can lie in their face. sometimes when I want to talk to her about behaviour, she looks at me and says, "what? I would never hurt my mum". She drops trash on the floor; when I ask her to pick it up, she will say later, and then when I persist, she will drop it on me. Today she made a fight as I put her hot chocolate in the wrong cup. When I asked her to just put it in different, she started to fight that I had to do it. She is getting physical. I just got to this point. I want it when she is 18. If she doesn't move out of the house, I will take her siblings and move out without her. I can't look at her anymore. I am a single parent and have no help at all. Can't even tell my friends what I am going thru as it is so shameful
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DarknessWithin · 26/05/2022 10:19
OP, I'm sorry. It sounds really tough. You and your dc have obviously been through a lot. 
I agree with the suggestion of trying to get professional support in place for your dd as soon as possible. It's awful that they're saying that she has to attack her siblings before they will get involved. Do they know that she is hitting you, and about the trauma that she suffered as a young child? As a starting point, could you perhaps go and talk to your GP about the impact that the whole situation is having on you?
I completely understand that you don't want to talk to your friends about what's happening because you feel that it's shameful, and perhaps you feel that your friends with their seemingly perfect families just won't understand. However, it sounds like you desperately need support, and you might find that your friends are more understanding and supportive than you think. My best friend left an abusive relationship a few years ago. Her older dd experienced a lot of trauma and has given her mum a lot of grief over the last few years. It has been incredibly challenging and my friend has been through extended periods when she wished that she had never had her kids - something that she found really hard to admit. I love being a mum personally and have been lucky enough to have an exceptionally easy child, but it honestly never occurred to me to judge my friend or consider her feelings to be shameful... quite the contrary, I admire her strength and tenacity through the most challenging situations and I think she is an amazing parentto her two dc. Are there really no friends in RL who you could talk to? They might be happy to help with practical stuff if they can, or they could at least just listen and let you offload?
FWIW, my friend's dd is doing brilliantly now after a few truly hellish years for both of them, and they are rebuilding their relationship in the most wonderful way. It isn't all plain sailing and they still have the odd hiccup, but her dd has made so much progress and is so much happier now. And my friend is actually enjoying being a mum again, so perhaps there might be light at the end of the tunnel?
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